I may have a chance to make things right with my ex. What should I do? (dating, boyfriend)

[blutoj]

Okay, so he broke up with me. We went out for 2 years, had a great relationship for a year and a half. 7 months before the breakup, something happened in my family life that sent me into horrible depression. He tried to cheer me up, he tried to help me, but I shut him out. I was unhappy around him, which in turn made him unhappy. I was a horrible girlfriend for the longest time. After months of trying to help me, he finally gave up. He said it was breaking his heart not feeling as if he matters to me, or that anything he did was making a difference. Now, three months later, I am finally better. I can say that I've pulled myself up and am a whole new person. Breaking up with him finally gave me the push I needed to reclaim my happiness and find the good in my life. I've made many chances, which includes expelling what had made me unhappy in the first place. I've come to realize just how incredible he was, and how stupid I was to let it go. I'm not dating anyone else, and neither is he. He said he would be open to the possibility of getting back together. He's not mean. The breakup was hard, I was left broken. But we still talk on occasion. I know my faults, and I know why the relationship fell apart. And in knowing this, I know how to fix it. I didn't wallow in self pity after being dumped, but instead took it as an incentive to make myself better. Should I ask for another chance? He really is a sweet guy. I know he'd listen.

What should I say? I know I'll be okay either way. I do love him, but I know that he wont be the only one out there. I'm just at a conflict of letting it go, spending more time wondering what would have happened if I had only asked, or asking and learning if there really is a chance, or if I really need to move on. I know it's never a good idea for a girl to ask for another chance from a man she was dumped by. It's a horrible blow to her self respect. But I'm not sure if that is the case with him, because even though he dumped me, I still gave him reason to.

What should I do? Ask, take responsibility, swallow my pride and admit my fault? Or just go on, and leave any aspect of a relationship with him up to chance?

[SD4020]

Admit your fault, learn from this and move on.

[1208]

eh...It sounds like you are really down on yourself. You are blaming yourself for everything. "He is so nice, I was just a jerk and I sucked as a girlfriend blah blah." That does not sound good or healthy to me.

[The Man in SATX]

Personally as your ex boyfriend I wouldn't take you back. I would recommend moving on and finding someone else. Under normal circumstances trying it again usually does not work out.

[CSD610]

Why are you asking strangers what you should do when you are the only one who knows you and your former boyfriend and the real details of the situation. Only the two of you can figure out and know for sure if you want to try and have a relationship again. Ask him what he wants to do or don't ask him and move on. Personally you still sound pretty insecure and I would not give it a second chance because you really don't have a clue how real life and relationships work on a daily basis.

[blind spot]

I also recommend moving on and finding someone else. I understand you are in a better place but 3 months is not that long, it sounds like you are rushing back into a relationship with him. Take a lesson from this and apply it to your future relationships.