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There's no right or wrong answer, this is a personal question.
Ladies, I'm sure you're realise by now that sometimes it's hard for a man to control his reaction to certain stimuli: it's not like he can just turn it on or off. Not to say that he has no control over what he views.etc, but face it, there are situations where he just can't help it.
In those cases, how do you respond to this? Say you're at the beach and this fit stunner in a G-string walks by...he's not ogling her, *****, but let's say he's a little 'sensitive.' Do you chastise him? Let it pass? Give him a lecture?
I know female arousal isn't as obvious. But fellas, let's say your woman says she gets turned on by the pool boy or something...would that be crossing the line? What if she has a massage by a masseur and gets a little hot and bothered, not necessarily thinking of you. Would this disturb you at all?
Let's say they don't go out of their way to do this, but it's incidental but they don't necessarily retreat from the situation so to speak.
There's no right or wrong answer, this is a personal question.
Ladies, I'm sure you're realise by now that sometimes it's hard for a man to control his reaction to certain stimuli: it's not like he can just turn it on or off. Not to say that he has no control over what he views.etc, but face it, there are situations where he just can't help it.
In those cases, how do you respond to this? Say you're at the beach and this fit stunner in a G-string walks by...he's not ogling her, *****, but let's say he's a little 'sensitive.' Do you chastise him? Let it pass? Give him a lecture?
I know female arousal isn't as obvious. But fellas, let's say your woman says she gets turned on by the pool boy or something...would that be crossing the line? What if she has a massage by a masseur and gets a little hot and bothered, not necessarily thinking of you. Would this disturb you at all?
Let's say they don't go out of their way to do this, but it's incidental but they don't necessarily retreat from the situation so to speak.
You need to define exactly what you mean. If you mean that I catch my fella looking at the gal walking down the beach...then shoot...who cares. I look too. If you mean that his flag starts waving...then, yeah...that's a problem. It would mean he was TWELVE.
I think the key part of your question is that "he's not ogling her" and "they don't go out of their way to do this, but it's incidental..."
I can't blame my significant other for an accidental sighting followed by an involuntary reflex.
Honestly, I think if you get aroused by the physical appearance of a man/woman and your SO gets really upset at you, he/she isn't secure enough about the relationship.
But, we're freakin' human. We don't have tunnel vision for our lovers only, there's going to be attractive people everywhere. I'm not saying go rub up on the chick with the double Ds, But don't be upset if your SO sasses you a bit and have a laugh. You'll get to do the same to her/him eventually.
Location: The western periphery of Terra Australis
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Originally Posted by ChessieMom
You need to define exactly what you mean. If you mean that I catch my fella looking at the gal walking down the beach...then shoot...who cares. I look too. If you mean that his flag starts waving...then, yeah...that's a problem. It would mean he was TWELVE.
The latter. Some men are naturally more easily turned on than others. Would you make allowances if he really did have trouble controlling it?
Location: The western periphery of Terra Australis
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Originally Posted by Prince_Frog
Honestly, I think if you get aroused by the physical appearance of a man/woman and your SO gets really upset at you, he/she isn't secure enough about the relationship.
But, we're freakin' human. We don't have tunnel vision for our lovers only, there's going to be attractive people everywhere. I'm not saying go rub up on the chick with the double Ds, But don't be upset if your SO sasses you a bit and have a laugh. You'll get to do the same to her/him eventually.
I agree. Obviously there's a line you can cross, but they're just basic biological urges, doesn't mean you want to bang every male/female that gets your engine going.
Whoever worries about this type of stuff is insecure with their relationship.
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