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Old 06-12-2012, 02:02 PM
 
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This is something I never understood about the term "friend zone". I think it's a concept invented by guys. Some things about GuySpeak I just don't try to understand.
Meanwhile...back on Earth, friendships between the sexes is a normal thing, not a purgatory.
It can be purgatory if I wanted to date you or have sex with you and you didnt feel the same way. That is the whole concept of the friendzone, the girl/guy only sees you as a friend and not a romantic interest.
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Old 06-12-2012, 02:33 PM
 
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It can be purgatory if I wanted to date you or have sex with you and you didnt feel the same way. That is the whole concept of the friendzone, the girl/guy only sees you as a friend and not a romantic interest.
But...do you blame the person who doesn't feel the same? Did they "friendzone" you out of malice? Selfishness? Rudeness?

Because it seems like those complaining about it feel that it they have been victimized. They seem to believe something was "done" to them, rather than just finding themselves in the very common and benign situation of mismatched attraction.
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Old 06-12-2012, 02:48 PM
 
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But...do you blame the person who doesn't feel the same? Did they "friendzone" you out of malice? Selfishness? Rudeness?

Because it seems like those complaining about it feel that it they have been victimized. They seem to believe something was "done" to them, rather than just finding themselves in the very common and benign situation of mismatched attraction.
Well I guess it depends on how you look at it. I dont think anybody who complains about the friendzone think it was done of malice or selfishness. With that being said, guys and girls do become a victim of the friendzone because they didnt have what it takes to reach that level of attraction that was needed. I was a victim of the friendzone many times, and I was upset I fell victim to it, but I never thought I was put into the friendzone out of malice.
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Old 06-12-2012, 03:08 PM
 
Location: New Jersey
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Two things. Number one, men all have different taste. What I find attractive another man might not. I'll be out with one of my male friends and see a women and I'll be like she's cute and he'll be like no, and vice versa. Number two I truly believe that there is somebody for everybody.

no. 1 -- well so they say. all these men that are open to so many types of women, yea okay. I'm sure they exist somewhere.

no. 2 -- is a joke. if someone wants to keep telling themselves that, based on zero or little past success -- their choice.
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Old 06-12-2012, 03:13 PM
 
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I used to put some women in the "friend zone."

Now, I just avoid women I'd put in the "friend zone" because their motives are different from mine and I don't need the headache.
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Old 06-12-2012, 03:18 PM
 
Location: San Antonio, TX
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There are three or four girls I've friendzoned recently, and it's because I'm not attracted to them. If I thought they were hot, obviously things would be different.
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Old 06-12-2012, 03:20 PM
 
Location: Middle America
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Two things. Number one, men all have different taste. What I find attractive another man might not. I'll be out with one of my male friends and see a women and I'll be like she's cute and he'll be like no, and vice versa. Number two I truly believe that there is somebody for everybody.
Which is EXACTLY why it makes no sense to say, "Hot women don't get 'friend zoned.' What is hot to one person isn't to the next...if you're not attraction material to one guy (or girl), it doesn't logically follow that it's because you are empirically unattractive. Attraction is individual. It's not as simple as, "You're unattractive if a guy's not ready to jump you no matter what."
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Old 06-12-2012, 03:27 PM
 
Location: New Jersey
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Which is EXACTLY why it makes no sense to say, "Hot women don't get 'friend zoned.' What is hot to one person isn't to the next...if you're not attraction material to one guy (or girl), it doesn't logically follow that it's because you are empirically unattractive. Attraction is individual. It's not as simple as, "You're unattractive if a guy's not ready to jump you no matter what."

Yea but men generally find the same types of women attractive over and over again. Deny all you want that they don't though. That's why some women are constantly friend zoned, they're not considered attractive enough for men.
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Old 06-12-2012, 03:34 PM
 
Location: Middle America
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Yep, I mentioned that earlier.

The guys I know have very definite physical "types," from which they don't really deviate. My most serious relationships, to date, have been with guys who had nothing in common outside of the fact that they were all guys. I've always found a lot of different things to be attractive.

As I mentioned, I got "friend zoned" by two guys when I was a teen, both of whom were/are attracted to an ideal that's basically the polar opposite of my look...dark where I'm blonde, swarthy where I'm pale, petite and slender where I'm tall and athletic, angular where I'm curvaceous. So I wasn't attractive to them They're not attracted to my looks. But obviously, to all the other guys I dated before and since, I was/am attractive. Not all men find the same thing attractive.
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Old 06-12-2012, 03:36 PM
 
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Which is EXACTLY why it makes no sense to say, "Hot women don't get 'friend zoned.' What is hot to one person isn't to the next...if you're not attraction material to one guy (or girl), it doesn't logically follow that it's because you are empirically unattractive. Attraction is individual. It's not as simple as, "You're unattractive if a guy's not ready to jump you no matter what."
If you want to be technical, yes a hot woman or guy can get friendzoned, but chances of that happening are much smaller than somebody like me. I dont consider myself to be attractive and I have gotten friendzoned plenty of times.
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