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If I am friends with a guy, how is that a zone? I have lots of male friends, gay, straight, married, single...I don't feel as if they are putting me anywhere in particular. Am I supposed to feel victimized because they don't all want to **** me? Because for that I am grateful!
Definitely, back in the day, in a few cases where it broke my heart. In each of the cases where this happened, it was largely because I didn't have the particular look they were attracted to...I was the exact opposite. Tall, blonde, pale, and all of them went on to date/married exclusively small, dark-haired and -eyed, olive-skinned women...more the petite, elfin type, which I am assuredly not. As time went on, it became clear to me why there was no attraction there on their end...what can you do? Taste is highly subjective. For myself, I've been attracted to lots of different looks, guy-wise, but I've not really seen this as much in guys, at least not the guys I've known. With a few exceptions, here and there, they generally seem to stick to a type.
If I am friends with a guy, how is that a zone? I have lots of male friends, gay, straight, married, single...I don't feel as if they are putting me anywhere in particular. Am I supposed to feel victimized because they don't all want to **** me? Because for that I am grateful!
"Friend Zone" is the colloquial terminology for people you're attracted to who like you on personal level but aren't attracted to you; hence, you will never be anything more than a friend in their estimation, although the attraction is there on your end. It's not a mutual friendship, it's a one-sided attraction, but one where the non-attracted person genuinely does enjoy your company, just nothing more.
Truly good looking women are never put in the friendzone.
This is so not true. Back in "the day", I was considered one of those good looking women. I was 5'3" tall, 120 lbs, teal colored eyes, light brown hair and I was athletic and worked out constantly. No major outter flaws cuz I worked at them all the time. I not only got put in the "friend zone" alot, I also got DUMPED alot. My first love was a college student whose parents thought we were too serious and I got dumped, then I met my next true love and he dumped me for another girl he had gotten pregnant, THEN I met my first husband..we lasted 10 years and he ran off with a married woman...I stayed alone for 10 more years and dated alot and did alot of FRIEND ZONING myself then met my 2nd husband who DIED!! after a year of marriage. AGAIN...alone for 6 more years and more friend zoning on MY part..met my present husband who was a friend at first..fell in love and here I am. OH..by the way...YES I am now a cute little old lady..still have my big teal eyes but also am working on my big butt that matches! LOL
Of course women get Friend-Zoned too. What an absurd notion, that they don't!
A few weeks back I was walking into a restaurant with someone and saw a young woman standing several paces back from a guy who was seated outside, obviously on his break. She stood at the door talking to him and he half-chatted with her (seemed politely enough) while he looked at and played with his phone.
He was young, perhaps not athletic BUT maintained the athleticism of youth, and was a decent-looking guy.
She was about 5'10", clearly the "big-boned" type and her face was rather pimply.
As my companion and I entered the restaurant I asked "Did you see that?"
She responded "What, that she's madly in love with him and he doesn't know she exists?"
"Yep. Wondered if it was just me, but I guess not."
Such is life. People get friend-zoned for everything from looks to attitude.
Of course women get Friend-Zoned too. What an absurd notion, that they don't!
A few weeks back I was walking into a restaurant with someone and saw a young woman standing several paces back from a guy who was seated outside, obviously on his break. She stood at the door talking to him and he half-chatted with her (seemed politely enough) while he looked at and played with his phone.
He was young, perhaps not athletic BUT maintained the athleticism of youth, and was a decent-looking guy.
She was about 5'10", clearly the "big-boned" type and her face was rather pimply.
As my companion and I entered the restaurant I asked "Did you see that?"
She responded "What, that she's madly in love with him and he doesn't know she exists?"
"Yep. Wondered if it was just me, but I guess not."
Such is life. People get friend-zoned for everything from looks to attitude.
I am still not seeing this situation as a zoning issue. It's just human dynamics. Unrequited love/attraction. Older than time.
When someone is not attracted to you sexually or romatically, why act like it is something being perpetrated on you unjustly by some meanie-head? No one should think this way. It is misanthropic and immature, and breeds bitterness and stereotyping.
In fact, it seems like the "friend zone" concept is just another way for young, inexperienced people to feel entitled and to whine about not getting everything they want.
I am still not seeing this situation as a zoning issue. It's just human dynamics. Unrequited love/attraction. Older than time.
When someone is not attracted to you sexually or romatically, why act like it is something being perpetrated on you unjustly by some meanie-head? No one should think this way. It is misanthropic and immature, and breeds bitterness and stereotyping.
In fact, it seems like the "friend zone" concept is just another way for young, inexperienced people to feel entitled and to whine about not getting everything they want.
Brilliant!
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