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I need some advice in regards to things I have noticed when in the presence of my wife's friend, hopefully I'm over analyzing the situation.
OK, so my wife's friend is a gay man that she has known for about 12 years now, he also currently has a partner. I'm not the most social person but I've noticed that I seem to get ignored when I comment on a conversation or when my wife steps out of the room her friend and partner wont say anything to me. Even when I try too start up a conversation it seems to fizzle out after a short response by them.
I almost feel like her friend doesn't really care about anything I have to say.
Ugh! I hate this. All of my bf's friends are from high school/college and all they talk about is experiences from those times. They never include me, even if I try. It's obnoxious and I started just not attending when they meet up. I go out with my friends instead (who all try to include him btw).
I would let the issue rest. How badly do you want to be friends with these guys and do they really come over to your house that much? They ignore you so you should ignore them, unless it really becomes necessary to acknowledge them for some practical reason like they walk out in front of your car while you're driving.
Last edited by Aspe4; 06-12-2012 at 12:43 PM..
Reason: grammar error
There isn't enough info here. Does she know him much longer than you? How is your feeling towards gay people? Have you given them vibes or reasons for them to not include you? How is the tone when you speak? Are you defensive or arguementative? Are they uptight or snobby? Are you uptight or snobby?
Or maybe they just don't care for you for whatever reason. What would bother me is if they're rude and non-responsive to me when initiating conversation or responding. After all, it is YOUR house. I wouldn't allow people to come into my home and give the cold shoulder. If they don't like me then they can hang out with hubby elsewhere. Have you mentioned this to your wife?
It has been my experience that gay men generally do not get along as well with straight men as they do with women. It may be based on a pre-conceived notion on the part of gay men about the extent to which they may or may not be able to relate to their straight counterparts. Additionally, I've found that the more insecure the gay man, the less likely you will find him interacting with straight men, even on a casual level.
I wouldn't really want to be hanging out with gay people like that. Take that as an excuse to hang out with your buddies and drink some beers.
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