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When a man takes you out, do you expect him to pay for your bill, drinks, any other expenses that arise?
Would you be offended if a man didn't?
Would any of you be offended if he did, and stop him from doing so?
He/she who initiates the date pays, unless the two decide upfront to go "dutch".
So, though I no longer date, when I did, any man who ever asked me out did pay for the evenings food and entertainment.
However, I was always open to "affordable" dates and never expected a man to drop a ton of money on me. (that was fun when it happened, but was not a requirement of me accepting the date )
If a man asks me out and doesn't suggest that we share the expense in advance, I would think he wants to pay. I have had all kinds of experiences, from men expecting me to fork over more then what I spent to men being insulted at my suggestion of leaving the tip. However, for the most part, men who ask me out expect to and want to pay....erhmm let's forget the bozo I went out with the other night...
He/she who initiates the date pays, unless the two decide upfront to go "dutch".
Agree...I don't date either, but way back when if I made the date plans, I'd pay (or offer to). If he plans the date I'd expect him to pay but I would always offer to pay my share.
Although I saw this thread a few times...the dating scene hasn't changed. The guy pays for the meal of the date. Many women assume this is how it is. Now later as you date the man he can ask go dutch. I said yes in the past to a guy who went out with me 3-4 times. I know it gets expensive. To be honest I wouldn't mine cooking with him at his house.
No. I'm married now, but when I was single and was dating my husband, we split everything 50-50. That's because our incomes were almost identical, but he was paying alimony. At first it felt strange to me because I was used to the man paying, but after a while I started to realize that paying my own way was liberating. I no longer felt obligated to order something mid-priced or below on the menu so I wouldn't look like a gold digger. It also meant that we could afford nicer hotels and restaurants than we could have on his income alone.
I think it's also an advantage when you are first dating someone and not sure you want to become intimate with the man. If you are paying your own way, the man can't make you feel as if you "owe" him anything. You are a free agent. It also means you have equal input into the choice of restaurant or the entertainment.
If I were single again, I would still offer to pay my own way unless the man were either substantially more wealthy than I or the old-fashioned type who wouldn't feel comfortable going dutch.
Most girls insist on paying their half. I can only assume they'll pay anything to be rid of me
LOL!!! Are your table manners that repulsive?
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