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I was thinking about how during a break up other people always say to the dumpee "they just knew you were too good for them and had to let you go." People said that to me when I got divorced. They said it when things didn't work out with the guy I'd been seeing for a couple months recently. Is this ever really true? I've never dumped someone because I thought they were too good for me, but I guess it's possible.
What are your thoughts and experiences?
It really is just something that people say to make others feel better.
I was thinking about how during a break up other people always say to the dumpee "they just knew you were too good for them and had to let you go." People said that to me when I got divorced. They said it when things didn't work out with the guy I'd been seeing for a couple months recently. Is this ever really true? I've never dumped someone because I thought they were too good for me, but I guess it's possible.
What are your thoughts and experiences?
I think it can be true, yes, and that it happens with men more than women. Women are usually out of men's leagues...anyway...
But the crux of this argument is that no one who does this consciously recognizes they are doing it at the time. They have fears and insecurities, but do not know how to identify them as such.
It happened to me. I'm young and beautiful, I don't drink, I don't smoke, I'm highly talented, I have SO many things going for me and this guy that I really cared for chose to be with some average bar fly not even attractive but old and haggard looking. I certainly know that in his mind, he doesn't have to live up to such high expectations with her, that he has room to flounder around but, if he were to choose me, he would have let me down in some form or another. So to choose the other "less than" woman, when it goes awry with her, it's really not that disappointing to him.
I was thinking about how during a break up other people always say to the dumpee "they just knew you were too good for them and had to let you go." People said that to me when I got divorced. They said it when things didn't work out with the guy I'd been seeing for a couple months recently. Is this ever really true? I've never dumped someone because I thought they were too good for me, but I guess it's possible.
What are your thoughts and experiences?
No one in the history of the world ever dumped anyone because they felt the other person was too good for them. It's just a cowardly lie dumpers tell not to have to deal with dumpees' negative emotions.
I'd say it is generally just a statement to make the person feel better. To help build them back up, and show them support.
I don't agree. The people who say things like this don't care about the other person's feelings. They just want to not have to deal with the other person's negative emotions. So, they try to flatter them as they dump them. It is pure cowardice.
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