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I was thinking about how during a break up other people always say to the dumpee "they just knew you were too good for them and had to let you go." People said that to me when I got divorced. They said it when things didn't work out with the guy I'd been seeing for a couple months recently. Is this ever really true?
No. People do what THEY want from their own perspective. Maybe you are too "good" in the goody sort of way, which is not the complement I think the "people" are intending.
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I've never dumped someone because I thought they were too good for me, but I guess it's possible.
What are your thoughts and experiences?
In my experience, people are driven to seek getting their own needs met. Sounds like your friends are blowing sunshine. Sorry.
I think what they mean is that you have standards and the person in question knows they could never meet those standards. When I broke up with my favorite ex, it was mainly because he was too dysfunctional. He knew it (even if he wasn't the one to break up with me), and he didn't hold the breakup against me. He understood completely what my reasons were, and knew they were legitimate.
When someone consistently has the moral high ground in a relationship, it can be an intimidating and high-pressure situation for the other party.
I was thinking about how during a break up other people always say to the dumpee "they just knew you were too good for them and had to let you go." People said that to me when I got divorced. They said it when things didn't work out with the guy I'd been seeing for a couple months recently. Is this ever really true? I've never dumped someone because I thought they were too good for me, but I guess it's possible.
What are your thoughts and experiences?
Very interesting thread...I have personally heard the "You're too good for me" line once before in the past from one particular romantic interest, but it wasn't for break-up purposes though (as there was no breakup). I truly think she honestly meant and/or believed her own statement, and so I was quick to very gently reassure her that I was the one in fact who was actually very blessed, privileged, and fortunate to have her, and that she was very emininently and absolutely deserving of having love and affection, whether that be mine or someone else's entirely...
I was thinking about how during a break up other people always say to the dumpee "they just knew you were too good for them and had to let you go." People said that to me when I got divorced. They said it when things didn't work out with the guy I'd been seeing for a couple months recently. Is this ever really true? I've never dumped someone because I thought they were too good for me, but I guess it's possible.
What are your thoughts and experiences?
A asinine statement your friends say to make you feel better. Kinda like "It's his lost", "You'll find somebody better" blah blah blah.
I think it can be true, yes, and that it happens with men more than women. Women are usually out of men's leagues...anyway...
But the crux of this argument is that no one who does this consciously recognizes they are doing it at the time. They have fears and insecurities, but do not know how to identify them as such.
No one in the history of the world ever dumped anyone because they felt the other person was too good for them. It's just a cowardly lie dumpers tell not to have to deal with dumpees' negative emotions.
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