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I'm a 38y/o man, I can do what I wish. Same as you. In ordr for me to "sleep" with them, they have to agree.
It's very noble of US.
If we aren't using sarcasm, I would call it something different. But you are right, you are a grown man who can make your own life choices. Just surprises me that you are scraping the bottom of the barrel just to get laid for the night, knowing full well that you have no interest in the person, only your own gratification. One night stands are typically shared between two individuals who lack self respect and dignity. But it's your life.
A lot of women on there can afford to be demanding. There's way more men than women on there and especially if a girl is pretty, she'll get at least 10 messages a day no matter what asinine garbage she puts on her profile. She could say she gave birth to a baby then proceeded to eat it and get 10 messages a day hitting on her.
Smart guys just accept that women are irrational, any guy who doesn't is as stupid as thinking you can go out in a hurricane and reason with it to not blow your house down. You just learn to work around it. A lot of the demands are pretty reasonable (have a job, don't do drugs/smoke, share a religion etc) but a lot of the demands are pretty irrational like getting upset when a person uses incorrect grammar like your/you're or guys having a mirror shirtless photo. Only some women are that far out mentally but those are the ones to avoid.
I think it's good when women are picky in their profiles, it saves me the time about finding out about those things later on. A lot of girls are lazy on them and are just like "if there's anything you want to know, ask me" and get messages because they're pretty and it just wastes time. And I do understand it sucks as much for women as for men, most guys really are boring dingbats, probably 85%. The cool 15% may be too old, too young, ugly or married so that really limits the pool. Most women are really boring too but guys are horndogs and dont care
A lot of women on there can afford to be demanding. There's way more men than women on there and especially if a girl is pretty, she'll get at least 10 messages a day no matter what asinine garbage she puts on her profile. She could say she gave birth to a baby then proceeded to eat it and get 10 messages a day hitting on her.
Smart guys just accept that women are irrational, any guy who doesn't is as stupid as thinking you can go out in a hurricane and reason with it to not blow your house down. You just learn to work around it. A lot of the demands are pretty reasonable (have a job, don't do drugs/smoke, share a religion etc) but a lot of the demands are pretty irrational like getting upset when a person uses incorrect grammar like your/you're or guys having a mirror shirtless photo. Only some women are that far out mentally but those are the ones to avoid.
I think it's good when women are picky in their profiles, it saves me the time about finding out about those things later on. A lot of girls are lazy on them and are just like "if there's anything you want to know, ask me" and get messages because they're pretty and it just wastes time. And I do understand it sucks as much for women as for men, most guys really are boring dingbats, probably 85%. The cool 15% may be too old, too young, ugly or married so that really limits the pool. Most women are really boring too but guys are horndogs and dont care
Perhaps, but almost all of those guys will only want her for sex if she's that demanding and seems like a real pain. That's probably not what she's really looking for, so in a way, she can't afford to be demanding.
My oldest daughter works non-stop for an NGO. She really does not have much of a personal life. When she does have a date...I give her a little advice- the same advice I would give a guy. Enjoy their company. Don't expect anything...have no expectations that "this might be the one" - no pressure- just enjoy their company and the rest may take care of itself- People are just to desperate. If you are a guy get the sex out of your mind if you can,, No person of any quality wants to be looked upon as a quick bit of pleasure..I suggest the same to females..................RELAX - a stranger you don't even know yet owes you nothing.
I've never even looked at an online dating site but i see quite a few threads on them on here.. When i'm home next weekend i may well sit down for the evening with the missus and have a look at a few.
It seems i'm missing out on some scarey/funny/disturbing/enlightening stuff...
I'm 38 and I don't want a LTR with any gal with children. If she has children of any age, I"ll "sleep" with her and that's about it.
And there you have it ladies. The mindset of the vast majority of single men with no children personified....if you are a hot single mom, he will give you a relationship about an hour long. oops, half hour.
I don't know. My profile got me what I wanted in less than 30 days! I was very descriptive in what I was looking for and got a ton of "hits". It was work to weed through them all but all you need is one. . I only met one person in the flesh because I was extremely picky in who I wanted to spend attention on. That person just happened to be the one. Having high standards meant they would be compatible with me on numerous levels. Better chance for success.
Yea, I believe you. American women have it good for internet dating, I have seen experiments where guys posed as women and they got 200+ messages. Where as if a guy posted a profile, even if he's good looking, he won't get any responses.
There was this one blog where a girl posed as a man online just to see how hard it was to date women and here is what she said:
Main points by the FEMALE author:
-Men constantly have to be on.
The hardest part is constantly having to be interesting lest you F*** it up.
- Women are fickle.
This trait in particular made me really sympathetic to the hoops men have to jump through when acquiring a girl’s attention, even though most women have nothing to offer.
- Women are boring and have very high estimations of themselves
While I think it’s important for men to develop charisma and personality, the fact that my profile (which indicates I’m a professional masturbator, who does drugs, seeks casual sex and lives with his parents) gets more attention than a relationship-seeking, professional who is being nice to girls, makes you wonder what f*** up mechanism is responsible for this.
I've done this "drill" a time or two, when it was offered at a discounted price. I explained that "since I don't want my own children, I am only interested in replies from childless women." Based on the incoming replies, it looks like some flunked basic reading.
I'd be interested in knowing how they replied to your CF status. I've heard from CF women that men they reject because they have kids, or want kids, can get downright mean, nasty and dangerous. They take it as a personal affront that a woman would not be interested in their seed.
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