Highly attractive people (guy, lover, attracted, Latin)

[austinchic]

well someone said earlier that exceptionally attractive people are often more harshly criticized on their looks (by the same gender - particularly true for women) than an average looking person. Because they are so gorgeous, people try to find the slightest physical imperfection in them. This is so true - i once knew a girl who was GORGEOUS, like no one would say she wasn't. you coudl say she wasnt your type, but you couldnt deny that she was very blessed in the looks department. Anyway, so one of our female classmates one day announced that she didn't think this girl was THAT pretty. Oh no, she wasn't pretty at all. It's like there's a higher standard for beautiful people and if they don't meet it perfectly, well then, they must be ugly! And since it feels good to FINALLY find some imperfection in someone who is obviously aesthetically superior to you, you MUST tell them right!? Because God forbid they go on thinking they're all that, when they're really just a little bit less than all that. So these poor souls get told numerous times throughout their life that they really aren't THAT pretty. That their nose is a tad too big, or their lips a little deflated, etc etc etc. And hence we have portion of the "beautiful people" population who is insecure, and especially insecure about their looks. Of course, there are the types who are ******* on wheels, but the more sensitive ones tend to lack confidence. Coupled with their peers not liking them b/c of jealousy, or using them for sex.....not all beautiful people are mean superior snobs. Some are shy and insecure and that's why they don't socialize too much. just a thought.

[Huckleberry3911948]

different set of rules for pretty people.

[samston]

Originally Posted by sophix

When you see a highly attractive person, what do you think? Do you assume their socially confident, can get anyone they want, etc? Do you stare? Do you become envious?

I'm doing research on highly attractive people and trying to determine whether or not they receive better treatment than us regular folks.

I have a friend who is highly attractive and he tells me that people often stare and give him better treatment because of his looks.

I'm curious to find out your opinions, and then I'll share with you my findings so far on this issue.

Human nature as is. Better looking persons have always received better treatment, and that will not change anytime soon.

[amanda0808]

I try not to judge without getting to know the person, although it seems that people can be presumptuous about highly-attractive people even though those people might be some of the nicest around.

[SpidrAkirE]

I sometimes envy very attractive people of the same sex if they have what I would like.
I sometimes stare at people of the opposite sex (which has resulted in me walking into things...) If I find an aspect of their personality that I don't like (arrogance, rudeness), the attraction for them evaporates.

[WhyShouldIWorry]

Originally Posted by Mayor_McCheese

Is that why everyone's staring at me all the time? I thought it was because I have my zipper open about 90% of the time I'm in public.

If you wore underwear, the staring would cease. They say that everyone has something about them that others find attractive.

[WhyShouldIWorry]

Originally Posted by Anu2

Here are my observations on very attractive people:

Attractive people often do get preferential treatment (free stuff, people doing things for them, etc.). There is also research that shows that they get better paying jobs. They get more attention and people are often more likely to listen to them when they speak (in a public speaking environment). However if their wits/personality doesn’t match their looks, people will give much harsher criticism (behind their backs) maybe due to jealousy. It is often easy for them to make friends but the relationships are often superficial and it’s hard for them to meet people who are real friends. It is also easier for them to make enemies (back to jealousy). It is easier for them to get dates but it’s often not out of real interest in the person but rather out of selfishness by the person going out with them (want to be seen with a “hot” girl/guy, want sex, bragging rights, etc.). Attractive people also get stared at all the time and others tend to try to find any flaw that they can with the person.

Some attractive people eat up the attention and use it to their advantage. These people are often conceited and don’t work very hard at making themselves well-rounded people. There are many attractive people who struggle to work on other qualities (brains, sense of humor, career, athleticism, etc.) to prove that they are more than just a pretty face and they often find themselves wondering who really likes them for who they are and not what they look like. There are a small handful that are oblivious to how attractive they are.

When one criticizes the often over the top behavior of good looking people, especially women, most of the CD posters show their true stripes by attacking the messanger. However, this exposes the one obvious fact that needs to be discussed.

Good looking people do have their problems but they are either self inflicted (such as anything from drug addiction, to a lack of making the effort to get a good education) or they are problems that most people would love to have such as getting too much attention. However, there are always those who are willing to give them sympathy and support, especially when they have their looks but even after they lose them

In contrast, average and sub average people are usually the victims of problems that are completely outside their control. Anyone, who for a long time, looks at those who get hired, promoted and lured away to plum assignments can see this clearly. However, the individual negatively affected almost never realizes how often they have been passed over. They don't see the person with lesser skills, education and experience hired in their place. They usually don't associate at all with those who ostracize them.

This is a far bigger issue than any residual discrimation against women. It affects both sexes but is particularly a problem for a majority of men because employers treat them like a privileged class that they clearly aren't and use this as a rationale to further discriminate against them to effect gender equity.

[funymann]

Attractive people...

Hmmm...

I have seen some amazingly hot ladies that can wear an outfit and make me Coo Coo for Coco Puffs but that isn't all I am looking for. I would have to say it's the whole package.

Even though a glass is fancy and great looking if it is dirty on the inside I am not interested in using it. If you know what I mean.

A boat with a hole it it.

A car with no engine.

A house with no windows or doors.

You get what I am saying?

[swanstone1]

I'm not in the same boat as most people so will refrain from answering. I happen to have always thought both George Clooney and Angelina Jolie were butt ugly. So, what the "norm" says is beautiful eludes me.

[mango tango]

Unless you're stuck with really unfortunate genetics, I think most people can make themselves attractive. Some of it is all about maintenance and grooming. Then again, there are those people who are just lucky and need little maintenance thanks to their genes. However, I think the majority falls into the hybrid: their looks are partially due to genes and partially due to how they take care of themselves. I certainly would not look the way I do if I didn't take care of my skin, hair, and body (not that I'm saying I'm the hottest thing out there, but I can obviously tell what enhances my appearances and what doesn't).