help with 3 year relationship on the rocks

[brokencrayola]

I would start a conversation with her asking her if there is anything sexually that you could do that you don't that she would like, or something she would have you do different. That will open the door to her asking you the same question in return, then you can tell her what you want.

[dr74]

Directed to towards the OP..
I am not sure if your joining this site was merely for the purpose to stir the pot or if you are truly a poster whom has a valid question.

Giving a BJ is not rocket science although I will agree that up there with a woman whom is inexperienced to rendering this service there are just as many men that do not know how to enjoy "Southern cuisine" in the correct way with their female counterparts.
With this stated I will state "PRAISE" goes a long way..I.e. "I love when you are giving me a dome job. when you do this" and explain it to her. State to her when she is in the "act" what you want..When she is doing something that for a nanosecond makes your toes curl, ask her to do it again.
I would not call this a "fetish: Any boob can learn to give good head for goodness sake" sometimes it just takes a little coaching..patience. After all you said, she does not mind giving lip service..you are half way there..Why would you throw a relationship away when you could teach? I would think this would be hot? But I could be wrong...smdh...

[BirdieBelle]

Originally Posted by dr74

how to enjoy "Southern cuisine" .

This is truly one of the more horrid expressions I've heard in a while.

Promise you won't ever say it in the presence of a woman.

[JrzDefector]

Originally Posted by Wmsn4Life

This is truly one of the more horrid expressions I've heard in a while.

Promise you won't ever say it in the presence of a woman.

It's not often that a euphemism sounds so much worse than just bluntly stating what it is... I gotta agree with Wmsn4Life.

[sablebaby]

Yeah, three years is WAY TOO LONG to not talk about this. Apparently, you guys don't have much open communication. It's a fragile subject for sure, but be more open. But, what is up with this once or twice a week BJ?? Seriously, on top of sex a couple times a week?? I'm too busy and/or tired for all this!! LOL She doesn't sound like she cares much to please you. I didn't give BJ's ever until my fiance ( I dated total givers!!). I quickly became THE BEST of his life because I loved pleasing him (and to know I'm the best of course) We talk and I make my needs known and I make sure his are met (realisically!). That's what you do in a relationship, make sure each is happy.