Should I even hangout/deal with a guy who has/had a girlfriend?

[nj21]

Originally Posted by malamute

Having a girlfriend is not like he's married. He's not committed to anyone, he's taken no vows, he's free to find out if there's something better for him out there.

Whoa!

Why when this is the other way around, I am given so much slack. Is it because I am a woman?

I hope this is sarcasm.

Anyways, I would just remain friends with him. He may be on the rebound from his past relationship and just need someone to fill the void until he heals from his relationship with her.

That is a long time and it's going to take him a while to get over.

[Beilua Rose]

This does suck. I really do like him as a friend. I do cherish our friendship, he's a cool dude. I just don't want to get into something that I may regret in the long run. Maybe I can lie and say that I'm a lesbian.

[Vic 2.0]

Originally Posted by Beilua Rose

This does suck. I really do like him as a friend. I do cherish our friendship, he's a cool dude. I just don't want to get into something that I may regret in the long run. Maybe I can lie and say that I'm a lesbian.

Just give it at least a week. Don't spend any time alone with him physically. Be strictly friends for that length of time. You may just learn something about him that makes your decision easier.

Could you answer my question? Was it towards the very end of the relationship that he started flirting with you?

[lovesMountains]

Originally Posted by Beilua Rose

I am friends with a guy who was in a relatively long-term relationship. The relationship lasted 1.5-3.0 years. He told me that they were constantly fighting after the 1.5-3 year point, and that he was tempted to break up with her. He ended up being dumped by her and was devastated. What really makes me feel confused and slightly wary is the fact that he was flirting with me while he was still in a relationship. Although, when he was dumped he told me that he really did love her and that he hoped that they would get back together again. WTF?

He flirted with me as if he didn't have a girlfriend, he didn't even TELL me he had a girlfriend until someone else told me and NOW he tells me he loves her?

I get weird vibes from him. He likes me, probably because I'm a girl and he's just sexually attracted to me, but then he also wants to hangout with me. Is this even a good idea considering the fact that he just got dumped by his girlfriend? I really do like him as a friend. Maybe I'll just stay friends with him. See, I don't know what to do. Then again, that's why I am on here...lol......

Help.

Listen to your gut instincts - this guy has red flags all over him and you know it. He is not good relationship material, at least right now.