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Old 06-29-2012, 09:02 PM
 
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Mostly the GW thing...but that's ok, we can disagree on that.
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Old 06-29-2012, 10:13 PM
 
Location: On the corner of Grey Street
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So what exactly is a feminine man?
Are you being obtuse on purpose? What exactly about this thread seems to have offended you so much? No one is insulting gay men or even more feminine guys, especially not me. Everyone else seems to understand what I mean when I say the first thought that popped into my head when I met this guy was "Is he gay" because of his mannerisms, the way he talked, and the general way he moved. It isn't something I can explain, but it's something I'm sure everyone has encountered. Does it mean he's gay? Nope. He may be as hetero as they come...I don't know. That's why I posted the question - for discussion.
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Old 06-29-2012, 10:14 PM
 
Location: On the corner of Grey Street
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So what exactly is a feminine man?
Are you being obtuse on purpose? What exactly about this thread seems to have offended you so much? No one is insulting gay men or even more feminine guys, especially not me. Everyone else seems to understand what I mean when I say the first thought that popped into my head when I met this guy was "Is he gay" because of his mannerisms, the way he talked, and the general way he moved. It isn't something I can explain, but it's something I'm sure everyone has encountered. Does it mean he's gay? Nope. He may be as hetero as they come...I don't know. That's why I posted the question - for discussion.
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Old 06-29-2012, 10:31 PM
 
Location: New Jersey
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Are you being obtuse on purpose? What exactly about this thread seems to have offended you so much? No one is insulting gay men or even more feminine guys, especially not me. Everyone else seems to understand what I mean when I say the first thought that popped into my head when I met this guy was "Is he gay" because of his mannerisms, the way he talked, and the general way he moved. It isn't something I can explain, but it's something I'm sure everyone has encountered. Does it mean he's gay? Nope. He may be as hetero as they come...I don't know. That's why I posted the question - for discussion.

I been around gay men most of my adult life and agree with you, there is a clear difference in most of their mannerisms compared to straight men. anyone that says there isn't, is full of it. If you know gay men personally even they will admit they're mannerisms/flamboyance, flicks of wrists, body language much more closely resembles women then it does men. Why do you think it is when certain celebrities finally "come out of the closet" people are not 'shocked?' Because they have already suspected this due to the previously discussed traits.....On the flip side i have met a handful of gay men who do not have those kind of feminine mannerisms and are very masculine.

anyway, as for your question. I think mostly everyone knows what you're talking about here. Personally I wouldn't be attracted to a very feminine, soft man. That is just not for me. I have a strong/quiet personality and would feel too much like the 'man.' although some men are cute with certain androgynous type qualities. if you don't have a problem with his mannerisms and things of that nature, then why not.
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Old 06-30-2012, 05:53 AM
 
Location: The western periphery of Terra Australis
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I been around gay men most of my adult life and agree with you, there is a clear difference in most of their mannerisms compared to straight men. anyone that says there isn't, is full of it. If you know gay men personally even they will admit they're mannerisms/flamboyance, flicks of wrists, body language much more closely resembles women then it does men. Why do you think it is when certain celebrities finally "come out of the closet" people are not 'shocked?' Because they have already suspected this due to the previously discussed traits.....On the flip side i have met a handful of gay men who do not have those kind of feminine mannerisms and are very masculine.

anyway, as for your question. I think mostly everyone knows what you're talking about here. Personally I wouldn't be attracted to a very feminine, soft man. That is just not for me. I have a strong/quiet personality and would feel too much like the 'man.' although some men are cute with certain androgynous type qualities. if you don't have a problem with his mannerisms and things of that nature, then why not.
Yes I actually think with a sizable percentage, maybe most, they do just seem different, their acting, behaviour. I know it's not PC to say so, and I know it's a 'generalization', but that doesn't make it untrue. Part of it may be because their brains are a bit more 'feminine', part of may be socialization in the gay community (for instance the gay 'accent').
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Old 06-30-2012, 06:13 AM
 
Location: Purgatory
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Sexuality and gender are two very separate things. Many gay men are completely and utterly masculine. In other words, do not assume that an effeminate man is gay.
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Old 06-30-2012, 12:14 PM
 
Location: Viña del Mar, Chile
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hahahaha maybe you can share pants with this guy
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Old 06-30-2012, 03:17 PM
 
Location: New Jersey
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Yes I actually think with a sizable percentage, maybe most, they do just seem different, their acting, behaviour. I know it's not PC to say so, and I know it's a 'generalization', but that doesn't make it untrue. Part of it may be because their brains are a bit more 'feminine', part of may be socialization in the gay community (for instance the gay 'accent').

for this particular situation, I don't even know why it's "wrong" in the first place to say these things are accurate. I don't know why they would takes offense to this, I don't think it's a bad thing; is it b/c even gay men do not want to seem "unmanly" or whatever.
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Old 06-30-2012, 03:56 PM
 
Location: East coast-New England
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I don't know how to explain it. He's just very proper. He likes to bake cookies. It's in his mannerisms and the way he talks. It's more than just dressing well, it's in the way he moves. Haven't you ever met someone and thought yep, they're gay...but maybe he's really not. I really prefer more rugged kind of guys normally. Ones who fix things and watch sports...I don't know. I don't want to get into stereotypes and gender roles.
Are u sure that hes not really just gay? And im not being mean..I have no problem with gays/lesbians. Gay men are quite fun. But, some times the person has not really allowed themselves to be true to what they feel, and try to 'fit in'. You see people who have gotten married and had kids, only later to admit they were gay. Just wondering..
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Old 06-30-2012, 04:01 PM
 
Location: East coast-New England
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It isn't that he cooks, dresses nice, and acts like a gentleman. It is a quality about him. I went on a date with another guy who told me he only wears suits and loafers, he loves to cook, he's a neat freak, acted like a gentleman, but it never crossed my mind he might be gay. I have absolutely nothing against gay people. I really think someone is born gay. But haven't you ever met someone and your first thought is oh yeah they are gay. There's just something about them that gives you that impression? I know know exactly how to explain, but hopefully some of you know what I mean.
Yes Kiwi..i know what you mean. And yes I have run into people like that. Follow your intuition, because It doesnt sound like he's going to be your type even if he is as straight as..... John Travolta.

Opps....wrong example
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