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I can live closer to the city and keep the job, but probably couldn't pull of living in the city on current salary.Funny you mention something about family not wanting you to leave. My sister was talking about moving to a place a few hours away to be closer to her husband's family and her mother threw a fit saying that she would be "devastated" even though there is plenty of other family nearby. I don't think I would move too far away, an hour or two maybe, which I don't think is that far but others might not agree.My other option is to stay where I'm at and do more traveling but of course that could cause issues with family (i.e. "must be nice to be able to buy all that gas to travel", "why aren't you spending the weekend with me instead", etc)
Ok, your family is starting to freak me out. You definitely need to move, if only to give you some emotional distance. And no woman is going to be interested in you if you're still under their thumb.
Find a job elsewhere - preferably 2 hours away, which is far enough away they won't be likely to turn up uninvited. Tell them the opportunity is too good to pass up and you need to do this for your own happiness. What can they say to that? Except possibly a version of "it's not about you, it's all about me!"
Run, dude. Go over the wall. Leaving them doesn't mean you don't love them, no matter what they might try to convince you of it. And it may just improve your relationship with them (as it did with my parents).
OP you could also live outside the city and commute into the city for work. Although you know the area better than us, but its a suggestion.
Depends on if you're the city type. Some people can't live in the city but can tolerate working there. As Ascension said, you may have more job opportunities in the city.
Research the job situation there and search yourself to see if you can live in or just outside the city and commute in.
I agree with this advice. Also, you will be able to likely afford more house outside of the city limits. It just gets harder and harder to meet people at all. So at least live where you want.
Ok, your family is starting to freak me out. You definitely need to move, if only to give you some emotional distance. And no woman is going to be interested in you if you're still under their thumb.
LOL they're not horrible but there are some control and clinginess issues
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Find a job elsewhere - preferably 2 hours away, which is far enough away they won't be likely to turn up uninvited. Tell them the opportunity is too good to pass up and you need to do this for your own happiness. What can they say to that? Except possibly a version of "it's not about you, it's all about me!"
Run, dude. Go over the wall. Leaving them doesn't mean you don't love them, no matter what they might try to convince you of it. And it may just improve your relationship with them (as it did with my parents).
Really 2 hours isn't all that far even if they make it seem that way. It's not like I couldn't drive and visit them in one day
Sometimes family can be parasitic. They get you within their grasp and never let go. Don't feel bad for doing whatever YOU want to do.
How small is the town you are in? I suggest you try volunteering some of your time. Usually single people have a lot more free time than married couples so do things to take up some of that time. Volunteering is a great way to meet other single folks. Also, vacation more, take up a hobby, play intramural sports. Any of those are great options as well.
Sometimes family can be parasitic. They get you within their grasp and never let go. Don't feel bad for doing whatever YOU want to do.
Yeah it's like I spend the whole week working and commuting. On the weekend, I'm doing chores around the house and get unexpected visits and they continue even after I ask them to call first.
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How small is the town you are in? I suggest you try volunteering some of your time. Usually single people have a lot more free time than married couples so do things to take up some of that time. Volunteering is a great way to meet other single folks. Also, vacation more, take up a hobby, play intramural sports. Any of those are great options as well.
It's pretty small. I'd have to move in order to find a sports team. Where I'm at is a good place to relax but there isn't much to do here
I need to kick myself in the a**.I go through these phases where I want to hit the reset button and try something new (i.e. new job, move, etc). Once I get psyched up, I lose motivation and get back into the same old rut until I get bored again.
I need to kick myself in the a**.I go through these phases where I want to hit the reset button and try something new (i.e. new job, move, etc). Once I get psyched up, I lose motivation and get back into the same old rut until I get bored again.
Shift your priorities. I know all to well about getting derailed, but lately I've been prioritizing my happiness. When something gets me down or makes me unhappy, I now attack it like it was a rabid coyote invading my flock of sheep. About 18 months ago, it was my unhappiness with my location. Now I'm tackling my weight and fitness issues, and things are going ridiculously well. I've always been good at making changes and fixing things that affect other people, but it took me a while to learn how to prioritize my happiness. I hope the habit sticks with me for the rest of my life.
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