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It's a lot easier to stay friends with an ex when:
- You are the one deciding on the breakup, or if it's a mutual decision with no hard feelings.
- The breakup is done in a respectful manner
- One of you didn't cheat on the other
- You have mutual friends
- Niether person has a desire to get back together
- You enjoy their company and talking to them despite the lack of romantic interest.
My most recent ex dumped me after telling me she was in love with me, introduced me to her family, begged me to introduce me to my dad (which I did 2 days before she dumped me) and then I helped her move (3 days before she dumped me). Basically she made me feel like I was used for hard labor and embarrassed me in front of my dad because a week later dad calls to tell me "hows things with the gf? She seems nice...." and I'm still crying my eyes out over the sadness.
Also, words of advice for breaking up with someone: don't start a fight with them over nothing and THEN break up. It's much more respectful if you just sit them down and be honest with them without associating blame (unless it's really warranted). I realize it's easier to relieve yourself of guilt by fighting with them first, but it'll speak to a better character to be respectful in this process.
I've stayed friends with some. I always seem to get that "can we still be friends?" speech. However if the breakup was bad, or if I was wronged in some way, I will make a clean break and want nothing to do with the person.
I've had to recently completely cut off one ex who I tried to be friends with, but his being clingy and refusal to let go was starting to interfere with my current relationship, and that is a big fat no no in my book.
Some people just operate that way where exes are exes for a reason, and want nothing to do with it afterwards. I wouldn't take it too personal.
I've only cut one of my exes out my life, completely. The relationship ended horribly and he still wanted to get back together . We have a mutual friend and years later he still asks for me and wants to get in contact with me but I want nothing to do with that guy.
I recently ended a relationship with my girlfriend of 3 months. In my past threads I mentioned a couple of things that she did that I really didn't appreciate. The break up was after a fight and we talked about it. I told her I wasn't feeling the relationship and that I preferred to be single. I really didn't dislike her and I wish her the best with everything in life. Anyway, she has now basically cut me from her life completely. I just don't understand why? I don't miss her like that, but I don't get why you would burn a bridge with your ex SOLELY because they are your ex. Am I the only one who feels this way?
It's a lot easier to want to maintain a friendship when you are the dumper. It's quite a bit more difficult for the dumpee. If she didn't want the breakup do you really think she'd want to maintain contact with you and hear all about your new girlfriend(s)? Really?
I don't really stay friends with exes after we break up. Generally one of the parties didn't want the breakup so the potential friendship didn't work out. I tried to stay friends with my last couple of exes and it just didn't work out. If we ended on better terms I could see a friendship working out, but I don't think I missed out by not maintaining a friendship.
If you recently broke up with this girl, she's probably not ready to be friends with you. Since you may have not have broken up on best terms, it might be best to let her be.
Of course not. You can always go back to them for sex during the rare dry spell
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. We have a mutual friend and years later he still asks for me and wants to get in contact with me but I want nothing to do with that guy.
