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Some people hate confrontation and don't want to hurt your feelings or risk causing a scene in public. So they decide to drop off the face of the Earth. It's not an excuse and it's a crappy thing to do but there are a**holes in each gender.
It's a form of rejection like any other, except it's a rather indirect one. Life is too short to be trying to figure out why someone indirectly rejects you and decides to disappear. Could be a million different reasons. And there are also a million other people out there . Very simple: you don't take it personally, chalk it up as part of dating and move onto someone new.
Rude or thoughtless people are part of the territory, so I just let them go and very rarely bother to make another try. There is little if anything to be gained by pursuing things.
It's amazing how people can abuse each other online in ways they wouldn't think of doing IRL. Ghosting applies not just to romantic relationships BTW. I've had this one friend who would just vanish for weeks, and it could be right smack in the middle of an ongoing text exchange of texts. They'd get me all eager and interested in what they were supposedly about to tell me, e.g. "you'll never guess what I did..."--and then poof! Gone for weeks or even months. Thankfully this is the only one who's ever done this to me.
IRL one wouldn't just blow somebody off like that in the middle of a conversation; at least I hope not!
I find it interesting that ghosting was started as a topic in this thread back in July 2012. I had been thinking that ghosting as a term was coined more recently. I know the action of ghosting has been going on for a good while, but did not know the term was not more recent than 2012.
I say move on. You asked what you have to lose by trying one more time. You might end up with her. I know she doesn't know you, but by ghosting you after you had some nice online conversations, she is showing that she is thoughtless and inconsiderate about other peoples' feelings, so be thankful you found out before you got entangled with her and move on.
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. Very simple: you don't take it personally, chalk it up as part of dating and move onto someone new.
