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Maybe, I'm wrong...but I hope not... I have a coworker who I've grown to really get along with...We go out for drinks, gab about men, etc....We've become really good friends. She has live in boyfriend whom I've met only once....REally nice guy but heres the clincher....He has no job. He had a part time job when he first arrived but he quit it because he landed something else, but that job did not work out. Per my friend, he cooks, cleans, etc, does his fair share. It's almost sems like she is taking care of him. She pays all the bills, groceries,etc. This has been going on for 2 years now....I dont want to interfere because its really none of my business...But it just seems like he's content with the current situation. I really dont want to think that he's taking advantage of her....but it justs looks that way. Now grant it, we do the same thing and our salaries are moderate enought that it could cover 2 people....But it seem like he's fine with the situation. Im not gonna mention anything about it...because I like i said, "ITS NONE OF MY BUSINESS"...but im a a girlfriend who's just concerned...that all.
Maybe, I'm wrong...but I hope not... I have a coworker who I've grown to really get along with...We go out for drinks, gab about men, etc....We've become really good friends. She has live in boyfriend whom I've met only once....REally nice guy but heres the clincher....He has no job. He had a part time job when he first arrived but he quit it because he landed something else, but that job did not work out. Per my friend, he cooks, cleans, etc, does his fair share. It's almost sems like she is taking care of him. She pays all the bills, groceries,etc. This has been going on for 2 years now....I dont want to interfere because its really none of my business...But it just seems like he's content with the current situation. I really dont want to think that he's taking advantage of her....but it justs looks that way. Now grant it, we do the same thing and our salaries are moderate enought that it could cover 2 people....But it seem like he's fine with the situation. Im not gonna mention anything about it...because I like i said, "ITS NONE OF MY BUSINESS"...but im a a girlfriend who's just concerned...that all.
Well, in a sense, he's taking care of her too... doesn't appear to be a case of a lazy slacker who sits on his *ss all day with a joystick in his hands. If that was the case then there's a case to be made against him.
Yep, its none of your business. If its been going on two years and she hasn't complained when you gab about men then she is fine with the living arrangement. Many women would be content to take care of a man that cooks and cleans for us and does his fair share. Nothing wrong with that. It works when the genders are reversed so why do you have a problem with situation.
If she loves him its up to her. I feel like a broken record but I have paid for the majority of all my dates, outings, vacations I've taken with all my bf's because I make more then most men my age. I dont mind it. There are women out there who dont mind taking care of a man if he's offering something else besides money. If he's cooking cleaning, doing yard work, fixing things etc and she doesn't mind the arrangement...you shouldn't either. It wouldn't bother me at all.
If it were reversed and it was him working and her taking care of the house would it be such an issue? Is she complaining about him not working? If not then don't worry about it. Maybe she doesn't mind him at home taking care of the household.
If it were reversed and it was him working and her taking care of the house would it be such an issue? Is she complaining about him not working? If not then don't worry about it. Maybe she doesn't mind him at home taking care of the household.
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If they are both ok with it and he is being something like a house husband, that's fine. Does she complain to you about the situation?
It's a tough economy and finding meaningful full-time work is hard right now. I don't have a job right now (but am actively looking) - I hope people don't judge me for that! Cause I'm certainly trying. I think a lot of people who might be in that situation aren't content per se, but they can't be too frustrated or beat themselves up - because pessimism won't get you anywhere. As long as your friend is okay with it, then I wouldn't be too worried.
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