I feel like I dont have anything to offer (guy, attracted, personality)
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You guys, life isn't just about your jobs. What about your hobbies and other interests? In college you must have studied subjects outside your major that caught your interest. Have you pursued any of those interests in your spare time? Any intellectual curiosity that's motivating you to expand on your knowledge base? Political interests? Sports--hiking, boating, climbing? Have you travelled outside the country? Do you enjoy reading fiction or non-fiction? Science documentaries? Art, music? On dates you can talk about anything and everything that interests you, and that makes you interesting. The other thing about dating is to take an interest in your date, and ask her how she spends her leisure time and what her hobbies are.
I agree with findly's posts. It's hard to find a match. Just because it doesn't work out, doesn't mean you're a dud. I've heard dating experts say you have to meet 100 people before you find 1 that's a reasonably good match. There's a lot of sifting and sorting that is part of the process. Join groups that share your interests: hiking or other weekend sports groups, environmental groups, meet-up groups.
Well I like watching all sports and I like traveling and keeping w/current events
I'm taking a break from the dating scene and I'm reevaluting things and trying to polish myself,so that when I put myself back out there I can be a good catch. but i feel like I dont have anything to offer. Yes, I am college educated and have a full time job, but I just dont feel like I have anything to offer in terms of a relationship. Any tips on how to make things better in this department?
Your education and job probably puts you in the fine catch area as far as those components go.
How do you take care of your habitat and self?
Does your home look clean or are you sloppy and a hoarder?
Does your appearence look well groomed like you care for yourself or do you come off as scary?
Can you talk and be a good companion or do you have massive communication issues?
Are you ready to hook up or are you afraid to commit to anything?
I'm taking a break from the dating scene and I'm reevaluting things and trying to polish myself,so that when I put myself back out there I can be a good catch. but i feel like I dont have anything to offer. Yes, I am college educated and have a full time job, but I just dont feel like I have anything to offer in terms of a relationship. Any tips on how to make things better in this department?
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Originally Posted by futureATLien
Bc I have failed at keeping anyone interested in dating me. They akways choose the other person
You really need to work on yourself. You have a lot going for you and yet you don't realize it. Get in a positive frame of mind and do not associate with negitive people.
Most people who date get rejected multiple times. That's the way the game works. Hold your head up and be proud of YOU! Use this break you are taking to learn to be your own best friend first.
Best wishes to you.
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Last edited by John13; 07-18-2012 at 01:29 PM..
Reason: including both genders.
Well I like watching all sports and I like traveling and keeping w/current events
Some women are really into sports, too. some aren't. But you can talk about your travels, you can discuss current events in the news. What is it you think other guys have that you don't have? You have a good job, and you're probably a nice, thoughtful guy. This is what women are looking for. Are you comfortable talking to women? That's important. What do you do in your spare time? Do you like going to museums, lectures, concerts? All those are good for dates. Walking or skating in the park? Hiking up to a lake and taking a swim with your date? Do you enjoy life in general? You haven't given us much to go on.
I'm failing to see the problem. Maybe you're just getting discouraged too easily? I second John13's post.
Your education and job probably puts you in the fine catch area as far as those components go.
How do you take care of your habitat and self?
Does your home look clean or are you sloppy and a hoarder?
Does your appearence look well groomed like you care for yourself or do you come off as scary?
Can you talk and be a good companion or do you have massive communication issues?
Are you ready to hook up or are you afraid to commit to anything?
We can go on and on.
Well I'm a bit shy, so that maybe holding me back a bit
I tend to open up when I'm one on one
Some women are really into sports, too. some aren't. But you can talk about your travels, you can discuss current events in the news. What is it you think other guys have that you don't have? You have a good job, and you're probably a nice, thoughtful guy. This is what women are looking for. Are you comfortable talking to women? That's important. What do you do in your spare time? Do you like going to museums, lectures, concerts? All those are good for dates. Walking or skating in the park? Hiking up to a lake and taking a swim with your date? Do you enjoy life in general? You haven't given us much to go on.
I'm failing to see the problem. Maybe you're just getting discouraged too easily? I second John13's post.
Some women are really into sports, too. some aren't. But you can talk about your travels, you can discuss current events in the news. What is it you think other guys have that you don't have? You have a good job, and you're probably a nice, thoughtful guy. This is what women are looking for. Are you comfortable talking to women? That's important. What do you do in your spare time? Do you like going to museums, lectures, concerts? All those are good for dates. Walking or skating in the park? Hiking up to a lake and taking a swim with your date? Do you enjoy life in general? You haven't given us much to go on.
I'm failing to see the problem. Maybe you're just getting discouraged too easily? I second John13's post.
I have an ok job. Trying to find another I'm not successful thus far
Well I'm a bit shy, so that maybe holding me back a bit
I tend to open up when I'm one on one
I'll take a shy person over one who acts like a howler monkey any day
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