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Far more men are supporting wives than the other way around.
I think it only applies to the spouses that the supporter would say "he/she is a deadbeat" Not to all single income partnerships/families. You could take a poll on that.
Has anyone tried to force you into this situation? You seem resentful.
-financial (maybe they would both take a huge monetary loss if they divorced)
-health reasons -kids
-religious beliefs
-because they feel they need to "do the right thing" and honor their commitment -fear of being lonely/alone
-they care so much about what others think of them that they'd rather be in a mediocre marriage than divorce
-feel comfortable playing the martyr and are happier when they are miserable and have something to complain about
and on and on and on...
These are my reasons. Kids first, then fear of being lonely/alone, and the fact that men get killed financially and in terms of custody is the rest of it..........
Fear of what, though? What is there to fear after a divorce? You simply go back to the way you were living before you were married, and for most people, they probably lived that way for at least 25 years.
Why do people stay in bad marriages, when it is clear the spouse is a deadbeat.
Is it really that bad going thru divorce when it is ruining your life.
Which spouse we talking about- the female spouse or the male spouse? I guess if it is the female dead beat spouse that is called a mother - wife and primary care giver who does not work outside the home- Yah get rid of her- the kids don't need to see a mother all day long that is not making the father rich...okay....I had a wife for 27 years and when I had money- I was treated well for a couple of days- when I had no disposable cash I was called a dead beat/// It was a yo yo ride and it was not my job to make her rich -- When my mother was sick-- she never went to see her once in the hospital- never went to the funeral- BUT expected half the inheritance...I spent the cash as fast as I could- she got nothing..
If your spouse looks at you as only a source of income- well- ....maybe they can call you dead beat- but they are dead inside....I believe my money minded greedy wife ruined my life- I stayed for the kids- now they are grown to hell with the fool...who attempted to ride me like some beast of burden..
-financial (maybe they would both take a huge monetary loss if they divorced)
-health reasons
-kids
-religious beliefs
-because they feel they need to "do the right thing" and honor their commitment
-fear of being lonely/alone
-they care so much about what others think of them that they'd rather be in a mediocre marriage than divorce
-feel comfortable playing the martyr and are happier when they are miserable and have something to complain about
and on and on and on...
Justthe6ofus pretty much nailed the basics on this topic. Each relationship has its own dynamic unique to that couple. They may share similarities with other couples, but there are always going to be underlying wrinkles to the story that keeps a couple together for better or worse. Those couples should not be so easily dismissed or judged by others. Not every couple experiences or copes with challenges in the same prescribed manner.
The person I know who's in a horrible marriage stays because it was once good, and she keeps thinking it's going to one day get back to that point. He's bipolar and she's convinced that if she can get him on the right meds life will be good again (but he refuses to go to counseling or a medical doctor or anyone who could help him, so I don't see it happening).
He is verbally/mentally abusive to her, but she feels a responsibility to take care of him since she's the one with the steady job while he does freelance carpentry work under the table.
The person I know who's in a horrible marriage stays because it was once good, and she keeps thinking it's going to one day get back to that point. He's bipolar and she's convinced that if she can get him on the right meds life will be good again (but he refuses to go to counseling or a medical doctor or anyone who could help him, so I don't see it happening).
He is verbally/mentally abusive to her, but she feels a responsibility to take care of him since she's the one with the steady job while he does freelance carpentry work under the table.
It's a sad situation
I've seen this too, people stay because they think the other person will change. Sometimes that is the case, but most often the change is only temporary and they go right back to their old ways.
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