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The facebook part is already done, no point in dwelling on the fact that he shouldn't have done it.
Yes he should bring it up, on his own terms, casually, and with stones in his sack. If he likes her, this isn't a "hold your breath and cross your fingers" weak male situation. He needs to convey interest and re-frame the conversation asap.
How is not bringing up facebook a weak male situation. I'm saying he should call her and not bring up adding on facebook because it's a non-issue. Talk to her like it never happened, because it really just doesn't matter.
There's no question we had a great date. We talked about a second date before parting, but we can't meet again until she returns from her vacation in two weeks. She won't bring her laptop but told me to text her, sarcastically saying that it "makes her feel important" to get texts.
I suppose I should be more concerned with sending a few decent texts to maintain interest during her vacation than anything.
Terrible advice...lol.. For one he is trying to come up with excuses and explain himself which is a first misstep. THen he is telling her that he's googling her after first date, that comes accross stalkerish and creepy as he11. Do nothing and downplay it if she brings it up.
He doesn't have to make excuses. He could be genuine and send her a "how are you " text, tell her he sent her a friend request and hopes it wasn't too forward. This way he covers his bases: let's her know he did it but also let's her know he understands there might be boundaries. Win win.
Not only did she accept, she also posted on my wall. It's all good, folks.
Good for you. Just as I said, and most men should just follow what you did. There are no such thing as rules when it comes to dating. If a girl likes you she will respond back to you. It does not matter if you sent that friend request during the date, if she likes you she will accept the request. If you send her a friend request, text, flowers, or anything. If she is genuinely attracted and interested no games will be played. You wont hear any excuses.
I had an excellent first date Monday night. At the end of it she mentioned how her Facebook is restricted and impossible to find but mentioned something about how I'll get to see something "when I Friend you." I found her Facebook on my own and hit Send Friend Request, thinking it would bring up some options. Instead it just sent her a request and now I feel funny. I wanted to just send her a message along the lines of "Ha! Found you!" and am thinking of maybe texting this to her. If I repeal my request, she'll probably be confused since chances are it went to her email already.
I feel like a fool. I'm not sure how to handle it now... Maybe I should call and leave a message explaining that I did it my accident?
If she accepts you friend request, then don't worry about it ever again, and go out on another date.
[and if she doesn't, go out with her on another date anyway, and don't worry about it ever again]
You sent "send friend request" and now are baffled that FB sent her a friend quest as a result? This is very strange to me.
There used to be two steps in the friend request process. I believe the 2nd step used to allow you to send a message along with your friend request. Now you just click the button and off the request goes without giving you a chance to think about whether it is a good idea or not.
So it's not that strange that he was surprised by it.
And in this case, I guess the one-step process benefited him.
I've only accidentally friended someone once while using my smartphone because it's easy to tap the wrong thing. He accepted me and then I had to delete him because I never would have intentionally sent him a friend request. lol It was just someone I went to school with though- not a romantic interest.
People always trying to overcomplicate dating, as if it isnt complex enough. See how that works out? She accepted, and you spent hours of your life worrying about nothing. Glad you didnt send her a text saying things like "uhhhh.ummmm...i googled you for awhile, and snooped around, and found your FB profile and had an accident and sent you a friend request, which i wanted to do, but it was only an accident...uhhh ummm. im really sorry, please forgive me" because chances are that she would not only not accepted your friend request but would have never seen you again. Guys, dont feel the need to explain yourself to a woman, espacialy one you barely know. It makes you look like a chump, trust me.
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