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The direct and creepy also seem to be the ones accusing you of being a lesbian, not being into "real men" and cursing you out when you reject them.
creepy maybe, but being direct has nothing to do with it. Guys that you describe are cowards who cant handle rejection and its stupid and works against the guy. IF a guy can bow out graqcefuly, he automaticaly gets bonus points from women in the surrounding, who are observing.
The direct and creepy also seem to be the ones accusing you of being a lesbian, not being into "real men" and cursing you out when you reject them.
I haven't gotten that too often - but I have gotten creepy. One guy made me repeat his name and number over and over again on the subway even though I told him I had a boyfriend and I was never going to call. He kept saying, "You'll remember. And you'll call." And I kept saying, "No, I won't. Thank you - but I won't."
Right, I was thinking more of a guys point of view and his approach. There has been quite a bit of advice on CDR telling guys to approach indirectly, buying a puppy to have something to converse about
ok, gotcha i haven't been here as long and my eyes glaze over sometimes at the worst advice
but the post basically said "guys aren't direct enough" and follows it up with a story about dirty talk in a hotel room
some poor bastard might read that and graduate straight from spineless to douchebag
a puppy? really? did someone really say that here?
I haven't gotten that too often - but I have gotten creepy. One guy made me repeat his name and number over and over again on the subway even though I told him I had a boyfriend and I was never going to call. He kept saying, "You'll remember. And you'll call." And I kept saying, "No, I won't. Thank you - but I won't."
This is why women need to learn martial arts. Next time just kick the guy in the nuts.
I haven't gotten that too often - but I have gotten creepy. One guy made me repeat his name and number over and over again on the subway even though I told him I had a boyfriend and I was never going to call. He kept saying, "You'll remember. And you'll call." And I kept saying, "No, I won't. Thank you - but I won't."
Oooh that is creepy!
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creepy maybe, but being direct has nothing to do with it. Guys that you describe are cowards who cant handle rejection and its stupid and works against the guy.
These types usually lead in with something like "I think you are really beautiful and I'd love to do **insert something that you don't typically do with people you met 5 seconds ago**. With an extra sentence about their prowess in said endeavors."
Some are a little more suave about their phrasing than others, but it is still sleazy. (If you tried that with me, then how many other women have you tried this on!) So you politely decline and are subject to a host of verbal abuses from the worst of them
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Originally Posted by Ascension2012
IF a guy can bow out graqcefuly, he automaticaly gets bonus points from women in the surrounding, who are observing.
These types usually lead in with something like "I think you are really beautiful and I'd love to do **insert something that you don't typically do with people you met 5 seconds ago**. With an extra sentence about their prowess in said endeavors."
Some are a little more suave about their phrasing than others, but it is still sleazy. (If you tried that with me, then how many other women have you tried this on!) So you politely decline and are subject to a host of verbal abuses from the worst of them
True. Some of these people are shortsighted.
Well, what youre describing is an ahole and someone who has no tact. You can be direct, polite and flirtatious all at the same time, without being too aggressive or pushy.
Buy a drink only for the girl you like or buy one for everyone to be impressive. It is all or nothing or you look like a douchebag. You get more points for buying everyone a drink, with the one you like.
Exactly. I would feel weird being singled out and would prefer he offer something to the whole table. I realize that would be expensive, though.
Go to the park with a cute puppy and see what happens.
i've given the same advice
you don't see the difference between taking your beloved pup to the park and buying a puppy as an entry point to getting to know girls?
i'll assume you didn't read the context of my post and what i was responding to rather than you are advocating purchasing puppies as pick up tricks since the latter is detestable (mostly for the puppies' sakes and also for general lame factor)
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