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Old 10-01-2007, 10:58 AM
 
Location: Happiness is found inside your smile :)
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We are having a new baby in about 6 weeks, I already have a child from a previous relationship

Yup - I'm still scared about this new baby and my snoring husband! WHen you only get 2 hours of sleep at a time and your husband snores through most of it - I have a feeling it's not going to be pretty - and I worry about our relationship beause of it.

He bought an aerobed last week. So he says I have the bed to myself and be comfortable. Well I wasn't uncomfortable as it was, I'm just a light sleeper.

Well since he's been in the other room - I SLEEP GREAT! NO SNORING. The best sleep I've gotten in five years! (that's when we moved in together). I feel like the old me, I don't even feel like I'm pregnant. I go to bed when I want, and leave him in the living room. I read to the sounds of rain, and I'm so relaxed.

I don't wake up ONCE in the night. I used to wake up 5 or 6 times!

Now I realize I'm actually happier without him in the room. I've gotten myself in quite a pickle. I want him back so our relationship doesn't become more like roommates then it actually is (less sex cuz preggo) but on the other hand I dread the day he comes back to sleep in the bed.
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Old 10-01-2007, 11:23 AM
 
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Citygirl72, I have sleep apnea, toss and turn a lot and my "body clock" is set to a totally different time than my wife's. I use a CPAP machine for the apnea. We sleep in seperate bedrooms. We sleep comfortably and it doesn't affect our intimacy one bit (we now have TWO play rooms!) If he hasn't already, hubby should get checked out at a sleep lab. ESPECIALLY if it sounds like he stops breathing when he's snoring. My CPAP machine is pretty quiet so we could probably sleep together, but this arrangement works well for us. Best of luck!
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Old 10-01-2007, 12:17 PM
 
Location: Atlanta
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I've known two couples that went to the two-bedroom approach due to snoring and it literally saved the marriages. As for the intimacy part, I think Crew Chief might be onto something with two "play" areas. Plus, you do have other rooms in your house. There's no rule that says sex has to be at the end of the day, in the bedroom. Morning/ couch or kitchen/table both work really well! But, if you have grown children, then why not go to his room for your intimate time and then sneak back to your own room later?
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Old 10-01-2007, 02:19 PM
 
Location: Capitan, NM
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Off subject from snoring but I know of a couple that have a baby. Twice a week, she sleeps in a separate bed to get a good nights sleep, while her hubby gets up with the baby. Seems to work for them.
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Old 10-01-2007, 03:33 PM
 
Location: Happiness is found inside your smile :)
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Thanks for the ideas

I can not for the life of me get my husband to do it anywhere but the bed...I've tried. He's just not a sassy kind of guy

Plus our house is TINY. just to get a moment we have to put sesame street on the TV in the living room and go to the bedroom
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Old 10-02-2007, 12:20 PM
 
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Thanks for the ideas

I can not for the life of me get my husband to do it anywhere but the bed...I've tried. He's just not a sassy kind of guy

Plus our house is TINY. just to get a moment we have to put sesame street on the TV in the living room and go to the bedroom
I'm thinkin' that one of these days, your hubby will realize that he has a sassy wife and the kids will be old enough to go on trips or spend the night with friends... best of luck to you guys!
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Old 10-02-2007, 02:02 PM
 
Location: Chicago 'burbs'
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Have you tried ear plugs, or soft music and head phones to fall asleep?
I know what you mean - you want sleep, but with your hubby. That's a tough one!!
Good luck!
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Old 10-02-2007, 03:51 PM
 
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My husband snores but I usually go to bed a couple of hours before him and by the time he comes to bed I'm fast asleep. If we go to bed together then it's trouble because I can't get to sleep. As far as intimacy goes, I find he doesn't snore after sex -- try it!!!!!!
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Old 10-02-2007, 03:58 PM
 
Location: NoVa
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I'm w Criew Chief on this. He needs to be evaluated by a neurologist who does sleep studies.

My husband uses a CPAP machine and it has helped him alot, for years, I slept on the couch. The machine is not loud at all, and if a person does in fact have sleep apnea, or obstructive sleep apnea, there are other health complications.

I sleep in a different house now, so it doesn't matter.
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