How do you cope with being ugly and hopelessly single? (man, husband)
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So I am 26 and never been on a date. I'm quite ugly, though I am in shape physically, well educated, and have a good white collar job. I just suck with women and it's extremely lonely being me. How do others who are in similar situation cope being ugly and single with zero prospects in sight.
Bro you need to take an hard look in the mirror and retract some of the things you say about yourself. Also check and see what you have and what you don't have. At least your in shape physically, well educated and have a good white collar job. Why do you suck with women? Is there an high ratio of men in your town or city, to many high maintenance or elitist type women? Do you do a lot of online dating web browsing. Why do you consider yourself ugly, at least use the word unattractive. First and foremost physical attraction is the first bond people share, the first connection of any chemistry. You have to have some sort of physical attraction, especially in todays over sexed filled media. As a guy who rarely dates, I have to say this, If I was in a relationship, my credit score wont be high, If I was in a relationship I wont be able to complete college, if I was in a relationship I wont be able to invest money in mutual funds and bonds plus I wont be able to control my spending habits. It could be worse, there are to many guys out there paying up child support money for the next 21 years or walking into the doctors office for prescriptions for Valtrex. Continue building yourself up, invest some sort of money, go to the gym and life work out, and try to be sociable during the day and night. Also avoid online dating, its mostly for attractive guys to meet a slew of physically picky unattractive women for sex and vice versa. If you need to boost your ego or self esteem higher a escort once in a blue. Also numbers game 9-7, 6-4, 3-1, from my experience women from 6-4 are just as picky and even more #$%^^# than 9-7s and generally want an attractive guy.it takes a lot of work to win these girls. 9-7s require a lot of money, these chicks will ask you for your credit score. Try 3-1 type of women. I feel bad you feel like this. I used to feel like you until I realized that I was lucky and better off seeing how women in my neck of the woods are these days. Sometimes I wish us men would be smarter.
Last edited by Bronxguyanese; 07-21-2012 at 12:45 AM..
So I am 26 and never been on a date. I'm quite ugly, though I am in shape physically, well educated, and have a good white collar job. I just suck with women and it's extremely lonely being me. How do others who are in similar situation cope being ugly and single with zero prospects in sight.
I dont think A PERSON is really ugly.... Personally your negative perspective of yourselves makes you ugly.
I dont think A PERSON is really ugly.... Personally your negative perspective of yourselves makes you ugly.
That's what I keep telling myself to make me feel better but deep down I know that is what ugly people tell themselves to make their already damaged ego feel better.
People have develped certain coping mechanisms to help them deal with certain painful or stressful life situations such as heartbreak, disappointment or rejection.
So I am 26 and never been on a date. I'm quite ugly, though I am in shape physically, well educated, and have a good white collar job. I just suck with women and it's extremely lonely being me. How do others who are in similar situation cope being ugly and single with zero prospects in sight.
Hey....God don't make no junk!! Why do you feel ugly?? Perhaps the reason you are bad with "chicks" is that you have no confidence, thus no real outgoing personality. Stop not taking yourself serious and extend yourself a little meaning actually have a conversation with some of the "chicks" you meet. In my past, I did date a few not so great looking guys and they were an absolute blast. One had a motorcycle which we rode a lot..he dumped me!! My present husband has a nice face but has always fought his weight and I mean, to the tune of at one point weighing well over 300 lbs. I fell in love with him at that weight. He was just so darn good to me. Not all women are shallow trust me. You just have to put yourself out there and make up for what you feel you are lacking in looks with a "BANGIN" personality. Good luck and remember, like I said, GOD DON'T MAKE NO JUNK!
Off course it's an excuse. If you're ugly and poor then you can't attract the kind of women that you dream about like cute girls who look like this for example:
Or like this:
And that's expected, you can't get a victoria justice if your ugly and poor. That's life
I knew that's was the real issue, "ugly" people aren't mad because they won't get somebody(because they almost always do) theyre mad because they won't get the extremely attractive person they think they deserve.
So I am 26 and never been on a date. I'm quite ugly, though I am in shape physically, well educated, and have a good white collar job. I just suck with women and it's extremely lonely being me. How do others who are in similar situation cope being ugly and single with zero prospects in sight.
I think there are many women who are looking for guys like you. You're just not putting yourself where they can find you.
There are probably a few things you can do to improve your looks, if you want to. If you have bad skin, see a dermatologist. You have dentists who fix bad teeth. Hair stylists can fix most hair problems. And you can also see a plastic surgeon if you have a big nose or scars.
But as most people have said already, self esteem is an internal issue. You can see a therapist, a life coach, or do some reading/ reflection on your own.
So I am 26 and never been on a date. I'm quite ugly, though I am in shape physically, well educated, and have a good white collar job. I just suck with women and it's extremely lonely being me. How do others who are in similar situation cope being ugly and single with zero prospects in sight.
I don't think you are ugly. you know what, don't ever think you are ugly because you will lose your self-confidence, convince yourself that you look good and also try to socialize as well so you can meet women. some said that if you are not blessed with looks ( face ) try to work out your body, I mean make your body beautiful.
Not all women are after the looks of the guys. Just be happy of what and who you are, everything will follow..
goodluck!
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