Older women, younger man...or vice versa? (love, husband, family)

[cremebrulee]

I've dated younger men up to 10 years younger and 12 years older....so, within that range, for myself I have no problem...anything beyond, well simply said, I wouldn't go there...but...I do not care how others view it. To me, it is all about happiness...so whatever your heart desires is totally up to the individual...these are simply my views on the subject and what I feel would be good for me.

For me, confidence and being good with the company he keeps is what matters...along with both of us being mutually desirable to each other, which involves compatibility...for me, I need mental stimulation, and someone smarter then myself...(which isn't saying much) LOL

It simply depends on what the other finds in his/her partner that is attractive? Attractiveness can come in many packages....for me, it is someone who has not graduated with a Masters, but is intellectually savvy due to life experiences....

Now if we're simply getting together as friends, I can blend with anyone.

Just my views.
Creme

[Rance]

Thus another standard set by society...of which I refuse to become a part of.

[cremebrulee]

Originally Posted by Rance

Sleazbagville? I get the impression some folks get jealous of older/younger relationships and thus tend to gasp in horror or call them names. Who cares...as long as the parties involved are happy with each other.

good let them, it is jealousy, and fear...if it were any different, they would be happy for you...screw em....

and big hugs to Hannah and you....

Now, may I come to the wedding?

[Magnum Mike]

Twenty years ago, I knew a gal who said she was only 4 years older than I am, and we dated for almost 6 years, then I found out she was actually 15 years older! That's when I had to put the brakes on the relationship and it was tough because I liked her a lot. Seven years of age difference between the two is okay in my opinion, but 15 is definitely pushing it.

On men and women who get involved or marry others that are over 40-50 years older, as we saw with Anna Nicole Smith and that super rich, and much older guy she married. You can definitely see the words "Gold Digger" on the younger spouse's forehead in marriages like that. Let's face it, I doubt a super sexy young woman or a man in their mid 20's would marry somebody 50 years older than they are, unless of course the much older spouse has a lot of money piled up in a vault, and they don't know what to do with it.

[southernlady5464]

I'm 6 years older than my husband. About the only time we notice it is if we start talking about stuff from the 60's..I remember more stuff from that decade than he does. I was born in 1954, he was born in 1960 so naturally I remember things like Kennedy's Assassination...he was 3.

And then there was the year I turned 50 and made him a member of AARP at 44, LOL. But 98% of the time, we don't even notice it. Liz

[GoddessofRandomThoughts]

Hmmm.....I think if I care about someone the age is insignificant. If he were many years older, I don't see the problem. As long as you talk about things as they come up and maybe some of the important issues before they come.

If he were much younger than myself (to me that means 8... no make that 10 or more years) then I would again want to put everything up front, talk about the problems that might come up. It may not solve them or keep them from happening but at least you might start off on the same page.

As far as how society fews us, that is their problem not ours.

Y'all take care

[Rance]

Originally Posted by Magnum Mike

[b][color=navy]Twenty years ago, I knew a gal who said she was only 4 years older than I am, and we dated for almost 6 years, then I found out she was actually 15 years older! That's when I had to put the brakes on the relationship and it was tough because I liked her a lot. Seven years of age difference between the two is okay in my opinion, but 15 is definitely pushing it.

I would never have guessed you of all people would dump a woman you liked alot, just over some numbers Mike!

[cremebrulee]

Geeze, I didn't read all the posts before mine, the last time I posted, although I disagree....with some of your posts...I didn't mean you guys are jealous...I meant people who judge others...

Rance, I believe this is how they feel for themselves, but they don't feel badly about you and Hannah...it is just what they feel comfortable with

but I really don't believe they are judging you two, more so, I feel an environment of happiness for the two of you....and if you doubt, go back to your posts when you were visiting and all the people who wished Hannah a good time..

and even if they were jealous...so what...you two are happy and that is the ONLY thing that matters...

But honestly, I believe, most here, are happy for you both....

Hugs
Creme

[Dennis58]

Well, the woman I plan to marry is almost eight years older than myself. We have never seen it as any kind of a problem ourselfs. I have a few friends though, and a couple have even asked me why I'm with an older woman. The funny thing is, they didn't even know that she WAS older until I mentioned it. And, on her side of the fence, she has had a couple of her sisters mess with her about robbing the cradle, and that kind of stuff. My sister is almost ten years older than my brother-in-law. My own experience has been that this age difference thing always seems to bother other people much more than the couple involved. I would like to say that the cut off point for me would not exceed ten years. But, I cannot say that with any certain absolute knowledge. What I mean is, when I met the woman I'm now with, I for sure wasn't looking that particular night to meet ANY woman of ANY age, but I did. Now, what if she would have turned out to be ten or twelve years older, instead of eight? Folks, I just don't believe it would matter to me. Who says older woman can't be attractive anyway? And, one thing I know for an absolute fact, when it comes to choosing someone to spend our lives with, we all need to consider what kind of a heart the man or woman has, much more than age differences, or how "hot" he/she happens to look. So, in my opinion, the cut-off point needs to be set by the individual actually involved, and NOT by other peoples expections. Thats my true opinion on this matter.

[Magnum Mike]

Originally Posted by Rance

I would never have guessed you of all people would dump a woman you liked alot, just over some numbers Mike!

Hi Rance

If I knew she was 15 years older when I first met her, I wouldn't have gotten involved with her in the first place. I also do live by good princples, and honesty in a relationship is definitely a must. I found this out in 1993, I was 36 at the time, and she was 51, although she didn't look a day older than the age she claimed to be, which would have been around 40 back then, I still didn't feel comfortable being involved with somebody that much older. There were other factors also, but it was mainly the big age difference. We still remained friends though, but she was diagnosed with cancer in the liver in late 2001 and she passed away in May of 2003.