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I'm not completely opposed to joint accounts, but on the condition that my partner was very financially responsible. Otherwise, a joint account for household finances is fine.
I've dated men who squandered all their money in ridiculous ways because they were counting on their next paycheck to make up for it. No emergency plans, no savings. No thanks. I couldn't trust that person to know the importance of money.
Nope, I'd just tell the guy to send those kids over to the grandparents and go find some sort of gig and contribute. I can't stand noncontributors.
Ah, so you're one of those ones who thinks only financial contributions count. Yes, best not ever get married then, or live with a partner, or even date...
Ah, so you're one of those ones who thinks only financial contributions count. Yes, best not ever get married then, or live with a partner, or even date...
I don't care about marriage or living with someone. However, I'll always date.
"No, because I don't have the money right now. I would have had if I kept my side job but your mommy though it would be a better contribution if I spent time with you by sitting next to you on the couch."
"No, because I don't have the money right now. I would have had if I kept my side job but your mommy though it would be a better contribution if I spent time with you by sitting next to you on the couch."
Or helping coach a soccer team, or going fishing or any number of things.
Why would you propose they go to Disney World...didn't you just say that it was not to be shared.
I'm presuming you are a guy. I think it is funny when guys have your attitude, because it seems like boys lose the most by having absentee fathers.
"No, because I don't have the money right now. I would have had if I kept my side job but your mommy though it would be a better contribution if I spent time with you by sitting next to you on the couch."
Now that is changing the topic entirely. We were discussing people taking second jobs to make play money for themselves.
Big difference.
When you get right down to it, things like taking a second job should be discussed with the spouse. Both people need to assess what the pros and cons are, how the second job will affect family life, and yes, what happens with the money. A spouse who just ups and takes a second job to make money for themselves without discussing it with the other spouse is just asking for marital problems. Same with a spouse who just up and quits a job.
These things are major life decisions. When you are married, you make those decisions together. If you don't want to work as a team, don't get married.
I can also say that as a parent I'd rather have a partner who was more engaged in parenting on a day to day basis than spending time on a side job for a once a year splurge to Disney World.
@YellowJacket, if you think parenting is only about "sitting on the couch" next to the kids...then you are sorely mistaken.
Now that is changing the topic entirely. We were discussing people taking second jobs to make play money for themselves.
Big difference.
When you get right down to it, things like taking a second job should be discussed with the spouse. Both people need to assess what the pros and cons are, how the second job will affect family life, and yes, what happens with the money. A spouse who just ups and takes a second job to make money for themselves without discussing it with the other spouse is just asking for marital problems. Same with a spouse who just up and quits a job.
These things are major life decisions. When you are married, you make those decisions together. If you don't want to work as a team, don't get married.
Very well said, especially about the second job being a joint decision.
Most people don't really want to share if they worked hard for something.
Most selfish people dont really want to share at all.
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