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You want people to put up with your shyte, but you don't want to put up with theirs. It colors you as an ass. My brother was the same way. He had Chrohn's disease (very bad case) and would never consider dating anyone with a medical condition. I loved him, but he was an ass. Maybe it comes down to hypocrisy? We're all hypocrites to some degree, tho.
Yeah, the OP has got a real set to post that, it sorta irked me and I don't even have kids....
I've had a number of guys with children approach me and I am very upfront in saying thank you, but no. I am not interested in a relationship that involves children.(although I have two children myself) Why do they need to e-mail back and get nasty about it? I wasn't putting you down for having them, they just aren't meant for my lifestyle.
I suppose it is just the same as people getting upset that people with children won't date people without, or any other thing....
I understand exactly what you are saying. I wouldn't think of dating a single mom like yourself, no matter how smart or good looking you are. You have two kids, that is a total deal breaker for me.
I've had a number of guys with children approach me and I am very upfront in saying thank you, but no. I am not interested in a relationship that involves children.(although I have two children myself) Why do they need to e-mail back and get nasty about it? I wasn't putting you down for having them, they just aren't meant for my lifestyle.
that's fine and all, they wouldn't date you if you were a single mother and they didn't have kids....but anyways a lot of the parents get angry b/c usually the person is saying something else too besides 'no thanks.' usually they're putting down their lifestyle & putting themselves on a pedestal for not being in that situation, as well as rejecting them.
I've had a number of guys with children approach me and I am very upfront in saying thank you, but no. I am not interested in a relationship that involves children.(although I have two children myself) Why do they need to e-mail back and get nasty about it? I wasn't putting you down for having them, they just aren't meant for my lifestyle.
I don't get angry when I'm turned down for dates because of being a mother. Of course (in my head) I think it's dumb that someone is going to hold the fact that I had a past before they came along against me, but whatever. I don't care. That's their choice.
As a single mother, I personally prefer not to date single fathers either. I know, that makes people like me and the OP seem selfish but the thing people don't understand is: Some times we can not handle more children than just our own that we have at the moment. I know a couple of single dads who think like this too and they refuse to date single moms. But we also know, we have to bring something really positive to the table if we hope to date childless partners. And usually... we do.
Maybe single moms should stop worrying so much about dating and put that energy into raising their children. The kids are already dealing with a less then optimal situation.
Maybe single moms should stop worrying so much about dating and put that energy into raising their children. The kids are already dealing with a less then optimal situation.
Does a mother's life just stop because she had kids and the guy decides to split? No it doesn't. I think if you're responsible, take care of your children and all of the needs you both have, then if the single mother wants to date that's completely okay and up to her.
The don't date and worry about the kids only idea is completely outdated anyway.
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