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View Poll Results: What percentage of people do you believe settles?
20% 7 14.29%
40% 10 20.41%
60% 17 34.69%
80% 10 20.41%
100% 5 10.20%
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Old 07-29-2012, 07:36 AM
 
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From what you've observed over the course of your life dating, and being around people what percentage of the population do you think settles?
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Old 07-29-2012, 07:44 AM
 
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Close to zero. Not anywhere near 20%. People attract their own, although I suppose there are folk who are in a bit of denial about who they are and what they deserve.
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Old 07-29-2012, 07:48 AM
 
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Close to zero. Not anywhere near 20%. People attract their own, although I suppose there are folk who are in a bit of denial about who they are and what they deserve.
I agree. The whole concept of "settling" in this context is alien to most people's lives.
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Old 07-29-2012, 07:48 AM
 
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Nearly everyone in some sort of relationship settles to some extent for the simple fact that they are taking the best that they could find (at that time) off the market. However, that doesn't mean there isn't someone better for them out there.
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Old 07-29-2012, 07:50 AM
 
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Maybe 1% - the lowest of the low when it comes to self-esteem.
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Old 07-29-2012, 07:51 AM
 
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Most people don't think in these terms--"better" is out there, "settling", etc. Most people are happy to find someone who shares their interests and cares for them. Wondering if one can "do better" or "upgrade" is pretty immature, don't you think?
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Old 07-29-2012, 07:53 AM
 
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Nearly everyone in some sort of relationship settles to some extent for the simple fact that they are taking the best that they could find (at that time) off the market. However, that doesn't mean there isn't someone better for them out there.
That's really only the case for yourself. If there is a better you, and you don't manifest it, then you are making yourself settle. You make your relationships. They don't happen to you. It's not really about your partner because 9 x out of 10 your partner is a reflection of your quality and value.
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Old 07-29-2012, 07:57 AM
 
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That's really only the case for yourself. If there is a better you, and you don't manifest it, then you are making yourself settle. You make your relationships. They don't happen to you. It's not really about your partner because 9 x out of 10 your partner is a reflection of your quality and value.
PURE SOLID GOLD

How I wish some of the people here could really take this info in and use it to better their lives!

I say all the time here, "water seeks it's own level", but I don't think some people really get what that means
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Old 07-29-2012, 07:59 AM
 
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That's really only the case for yourself. If there is a better you, and you don't manifest it, then you are making yourself settle. You make your relationships. They don't happen to you. It's not really about your partner because 9 x out of 10 your partner is a reflection of your quality and value.
What on Earth are you talking about? My point is that everyone in a relationship basically settled for what was best available at that particular time/place. If one has stopped looking and removed themselves from the dating market, they have, by definition, settled.

Every married person in America settled and opted to no longer look for something better.
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Old 07-29-2012, 08:06 AM
 
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What on Earth are you talking about? My point is that everyone in a relationship basically settled for what was best available at that particular time/place. If one has stopped looking and removed themselves from the dating market, they have, by definition, settled.

Every married person in America settled.
You're wrong. Everyone did not basically settle. Removing yourself from the dating market is not settling. It's quite ludicrous of you to think your crazy view of relationships is something you can apply to others. Get real.
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