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No offense, but you are a single mother most likely in your 30's-40's. Of course that demographic likes nicer guys. If you were an attractive 21 year old with no kids, I would almost guarantee that you wouldn't go for the nice guy type who is scared to kiss a girl after 4 months.
Wrong. I'm 24 sunshine. I just have a better mentality than a lot a folks my age (especially the boys). And that's not a dig or saying I'm better by any means (before you try to take it to the extreme here), but guys in my age group think with that sort of messed up mentality that you have. This is why I like talking with older guys (in their mid to late 30's) a lot of this mentality is gone by this point. They're up front yet a lot more respectful.
I guess people can do what they feel comfortable with, different strokes for different folks, I respect the wishes of all the women I date; if I can;t "live with it" I move on maturely to someone who I'm more comfortable with, no harm . I guess I'll never understand all these "rules and deadlines". Shouldn't simple common decency and solid communication be enough? BTW I have to laugh at the sterotype that American men want a bunch of meek, docile, and submissive foreign women to dominate LOL. I'm having a great time with a 4' 10" 90 lb spunky, feisty, funloving Aussie girl
That's 100% false. Guys can somewhat make up for looks with money and personality, but looks are still the focal point of attraction. The better looking a guy is, the more he can get away with. For example, a guy who rates a 9/10 in the eyes of most women will do extremely well with women even if he has no job and still lives at home with his parents. They may not look to him for a serious relationship, but he'll likely have no problem sleeping with them or having a fling. On the other hand, a guy who rates a 4.5/10 in most womens eyes better have a great job, a great personality, and his own place if he wants to get anywhere with them.
they aren't going to wait around for 10 days let alone 90, they will just move on to another woman. They want what they want and don't care and don't think they should have to wait for their 'needs.' Best thing to do is do what you want as woman and don't let them force you into anything just because they want to. Who cares what they want.
I don't know what kind of guys you know or date, but not all of us have so many options that would have us move on to another woman if there was no sex by day 10. I think some women just assume guys are randomly hooking up with woman ALL THE TIME. Some guys can, but I believe that is the 10% of guys out there that get 90% of the attention from women.
I don't know what kind of guys you know or date, but not all of us have so many options that would have us move on to another woman if there was no sex by day 10. I think some women just assume guys are randomly hooking up with woman ALL THE TIME. Some guys can, but I believe that is the 10% of guys out there that get 90% of the attention from women.
The guys I'm talking about are the ones that have displayed the behavior I mentioned in the previous post. I didn't pull it out of my behind, you know. Most of them WILL move on, if you claim to not be one of them, fine. Some guy on here already mentioned it: in today's world there's more women then not willing to sleep with men in a "timely" manner, since it's become 'no big deal' to most of these people -- so obviously they're not going to waste time on the ones that take too long for them. I agree with that statement because I've seen it play out like that.
The guys I'm talking about are the ones that have displayed the behavior I mentioned in the previous post. I didn't pull it out of my behind, you know. Most of them WILL move on, if you claim to not be one of them, fine. Some guy on here already mentioned it: in today's world there's more women then not willing to sleep with men in a "timely" manner, since it's become 'no big deal' to most of these people -- so obviously they're not going to waste time on the ones that take too long for them. I agree with that statement because I've seen it play out like that.
The only guys that do this behavior that you have seen is most likely the actions of players.
It is too bad that this is the behavior that you think all men live their life by.
I don't think that the lack of sex in 10 days or less is the issue. I am sure that most guys would persue a relationship with a woman that they clicked with, as long as enough effort was contributed by both parties. Regardless of whether or not there was sex in 10 days.
If a guy is truely interested in a woman, they don't move on after 10 days. I can tell you this because I am a man, and I have dated women longer than 10 days without sex. And this is MY experience.
I don't have a hard and fast rule on how many dates I'll go on without a girl having sex with me. But after a few dates, I need to, at the very least, be able to foresee some sexual activity in the future. She has to give off cues of attraction and the logistics need to be there too (this is very underrated). By logistics I mean what are our living situations and schedules? If we can only see each other on Friday nights, but she has to be up early on Saturdays for example, then it's a lot harder to foresee sex in the future. Also, if she lives with the parents then that almost always turns me away (I'm 33 and yet still run into this problem a lot with girls these days).
For example, I've gone on 2 dates with a girl recently, and we kissed a little, danced a little (freaked, as they say haha), and basically gave off signs of obvious attraction to each other. But so far, nothing beyond that has happened (haven't gone to either person's apartment yet). She definitely has me interested in date 3 (plus she even paid for the 2nd round of drinks on the 2nd date), whereas if the kissing & dancing didn't happen, I'd probably just move on to someone else...or nobody else (which is better than spending money on dates with a girl that go nowhere).
So in summary, I will definitely move on after a couple dates if the girl doesn't give off any sexual attraction or flirting that at least allows me to envision sex in the future. I mean if it's not there after 2 dates, it's probably not gonna be there on date 3, 4, 5, or 6...so it's move on time.
I don't have a hard and fast rule on how many dates I'll go on without a girl having sex with me. But after a few dates, I need to, at the very least, be able to foresee some sexual activity in the future. She has to give off cues of attraction and the logistics need to be there too (this is very underrated). By logistics I mean what are our living situations and schedules? If we can only see each other on Friday nights, but she has to be up early on Saturdays for example, then it's a lot harder to foresee sex in the future. Also, if she lives with the parents then that almost always turns me away (I'm 33 and yet still run into this problem a lot with girls these days).
For example, I've gone on 2 dates with a girl recently, and we kissed a little, danced a little (freaked, as they say haha), and basically gave off signs of obvious attraction to each other. But so far, nothing beyond that has happened (haven't gone to either person's apartment yet). She definitely has me interested in date 3 (plus she even paid for the 2nd round of drinks on the 2nd date), whereas if the kissing & dancing didn't happen, I'd probably just move on to someone else...or nobody else (which is better than spending money on dates with a girl that go nowhere).
So in summary, I will definitely move on after a couple dates if the girl doesn't give off any sexual attraction or flirting that at least allows me to envision sex in the future. I mean if it's not there after 2 dates, it's probably not gonna be there on date 3, 4, 5, or 6...so it's move on time.
Just curious here. What kind of time frame did these two dates occur? Once a week? Once every other week? Two dates in the same week?
I ask, cause I recently went on two dates with one person. But we were on a once every other week kind of rotation. WIht that much time passing by, and not much communication in between dates, I got bored.
Just curious here. What kind of time frame did these two dates occur? Once a week? Once every other week? Two dates in the same week?
I ask, cause I recently went on two dates with one person. But we were on a once every other week kind of rotation. WIht that much time passing by, and not much communication in between dates, I got bored.
The dates were within 6 days of each other, with a decent amount of texting in between.
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Best thing to do is do what you want as woman and don't let them force you into anything just because they want to. Who cares what they want.
