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The only guys that do this behavior that you have seen is most likely the actions of players.
It is too bad that this is the behavior that you think all men live their life by.
I don't think that the lack of sex in 10 days or less is the issue. I am sure that most guys would persue a relationship with a woman that they clicked with, as long as enough effort was contributed by both parties. Regardless of whether or not there was sex in 10 days.
If a guy is truely interested in a woman, they don't move on after 10 days. I can tell you this because I am a man, and I have dated women longer than 10 days without sex. And this is MY experience.
You're not alone in that experience, there are plenty of men who share your mentality, they're just not all posting on C-D Relationships.
Other than guys simply looking for one-night stands, I don't think the average man has women lined up that he would be so quick to dispose of a potential relationship because he has so many other prospects waiting in the wings. Maybe 3 months for sex is too long for some people, but if there's a chance for a relationship to develop, you need to give it time to grow in all aspects. The two people in that relationship will know when that when the time is right and they are ready for that next step.
I had a guy tell me after a month if sex isn't on the table he's gone cause seeing someone without sex is like a marriage. I think you should get to know a person before sex, but in todays times it seems u got have sex if you want to get to know the person...
I always referred to dating without sex as the friend zone.
If you are not having sex, you are not dating. Certainly not worth being monogamous.
A friend called me up and invited me to dinner. When paying she said "let me help with that!" I thought she had a handle on this friendship thing, then she pulled out one dollar.
The next time she invited me to dinner I took her to Sizzler. I made my order, when the clerk asked anything else I said no and paid. The girl had the totally confused look to her face. She asked me why when we sat, I told her when I went out with the guys we all paid our own way.
She wanted me to do all the normal dating stuff but with no benefits. Walks on the beach, concerts, movies. I am betting she is a cat lady now.
I always referred to dating without sex as the friend zone.
If you are not having sex, you are not dating. Certainly not worth being monogamous.
A friend called me up and invited me to dinner. When paying she said "let me help with that!" I thought she had a handle on this friendship thing, then she pulled out one dollar.
The next time she invited me to dinner I took her to Sizzler. I made my order, when the clerk asked anything else I said no and paid. The girl had the totally confused look to her face. She asked me why when we sat, I told her when I went out with the guys we all paid our own way.
She wanted me to do all the normal dating stuff but with no benefits. Walks on the beach, concerts, movies. I am betting she is a cat lady now.
Guy friends shouldn't be expected to pay when they go out with their girl friends. I don't pay for my friends when we go out and they don't pay for me. I'm not sure what kind of guy would want to have a female friend he pays for and does date activities with yet doesn't actually get any of the perks that come with real dating.
Guy friends shouldn't be expected to pay when they go out with their girl friends. I don't pay for my friends when we go out and they don't pay for me. I'm not sure what kind of guy would want to have a female friend he pays for and does date activities with yet doesn't actually get any of the perks that come with real dating.
I pay on occasion when me and my guy friends go out...but they usually pay the next time and we go back and forth. Sometimes I'll get the tab if I know they're having money issues or if it's something small like coffee.
Are there really women who expect their male friends to pay for them? I've never experienced this.
I pay on occasion when me and my guy friends go out...but they usually pay the next time and we go back and forth. Sometimes I'll get the tab if I know they're having money issues or if it's something small like coffee.
Are there really women who expect their male friends to pay for them? I've never experienced this.
I guess as many as guys who expect some nookie if they pick up a female friends tab.
My friends and I usually pay our own tab but also go back and forth in picking up friends tabs, male and female. but I never expect sex from any of them when I do pick up their tab.
I pay on occasion when me and my guy friends go out...but they usually pay the next time and we go back and forth. Sometimes I'll get the tab if I know they're having money issues or if it's something small like coffee.
Are there really women who expect their male friends to pay for them? I've never experienced this.
Same here...taking turns is fine or if it's a special occasion like my friend's birthday, or like you said, if I know they are having some money issues then sure, I'll pay. But a woman going out with her guy friend and expecting him to pay seems pretty ridiculous.
to the GUYS, say what you will, but I stand by my last post. (post #231) I've got 5 reps so far for that post,
so that means SEVERAL people agree with me.
When I'm out with friends, or dating a guy, I pay my own way. Why shouldn't I?
And you men who are having sex all over the place are probably adding to the spread of STDs. Thanks!
I will never have sex with someone until we both get tested, and show each other our results.
It's the only sensible and responsible thing to do!!
WOW. just wow.
I just read this whole thread, and most of the male posters' responses here I found disgusting!
Most of you men sound like ALL you really want from a woman is sex. WTF
OH Yeah, that'll go a looonng way in a LTR
Don't you men value honesty, respect, trust, companionship, and communication in a relationship??
Guess not.
Ya know, the values/morals we had back in the 'old days' are what helped keep things sane and civil. (People sometimes dated for YEARS, and waited til they were married til they had sex. And they didn't get divorced at the drop of a hat.)
Now look at today's world... lots and lots of single parents struggling to raise children, STDs running rampant, men angry because they owe child support, abortions and sometimes life-long guilt afterwards, lots of children living in poverty, lots of moms on foodstamps, men in jail because they thought with the wrong head, etc etc etc... MOSTLY caused by men who wouldn't wait, and the weak women who allowed it!
Think about it... if there weren't any women who slept with men after only a few dates, men would shape up and start respecting women, and NOT expecting sex so soon! DUH
But, it's too bad, we can't turn back the clock now, and I'm sure the morals/values in this country are just gonna keep going down down down.....
What I've learned from this thread AND from real life is:
In the dating world, most men are shallow. and most women are not.
And I honestly feel sick to my stomach if the males' posts on this thread are the way most men think/feel today.
(can you honestly say you'd encourage your sweet little sister to jump into bed with a man after only 2 or 3 dates???)
This post is absurd. Why exactly is someone wrong for not choosing to wait to have sex? Sex after 3 weeks is no different than sex after 6 months, only you can find out if you guys are sexually incompatible early on. I wouldn't want to waste a year if I found out we were sexually incompatible.
How can you say men are more shallow if they are less discriminating when choosing mates. Didn't you read the study where women rate 80% of men below average in looks. Its ridiculous to say men are more shallow when women have 10x more options yet some of them still can't find a mate.
I pay on occasion when me and my guy friends go out...but they usually pay the next time and we go back and forth. Sometimes I'll get the tab if I know they're having money issues or if it's something small like coffee.
Are there really women who expect their male friends to pay for them? I've never experienced this.
Yep there are. I've experienced this in the past. I had a friend that just didn't make as much money as I do and yet she wanted to go out all the time. She would ask me to take her out to dinner and drinks, she would pick the restaurant, and I would pay. Thank god she moved to Arizona.
I know of a woman who was doing something similar. She met a decent guy but while dating him she would not put out, sadly she was getting her sexual satisfaction from an fwb while holding out sex from her new boyfriend.
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