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After my conversation with a member in another thread, I got to thinking... how important is sexual chemistry and reaching orgasm to women when looking for bf/husband? On your list of deal breakers, is it close to the top, in the middle, somewhere near the bottom?
Would you chose, good job, maturity, compassionate, affectionate, good husband father, attentive etc over your sexual needs being met. Ideally, a man would be all of those things, but say you could only reach orgasm through oral sex, and the man refused to perform it, would that be a deal breaker? If he was everything above, but the sex was just "okay", would those other qualities make up for the lack of sexual compatibility? If after 20 years of marriage the spark wasn't there and couldn't be recovered (but he was still a good husband and father), would you divorce to find someone you had a sexual spark with (like a lot of men do)?
How important is sex and reaching orgasm to women?
I never told the girl the four letter word, as the crocodile has become quite the cynic and has gotten averse to a relationship, but pretends like he is this good lover boy.
But the girl said the four letter word during intense action. She also says she feels like she wants to marry me each time we do it.
So I am starting to believe that the O is the way into a woman's heart.
I never told the girl the four letter word, as the crocodile has become quite the cynic and has gotten averse to a relationship, but pretends like he is this good lover boy.
But the girl said the four letter word during intense action. She also says she feels like she wants to marry me each time we do it.
So I am starting to believe that the O is the way into a woman's heart.
Well, let's seeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee, what's this 4 letter word................
OP, are you a guy? Would you joyfully accept a sex life where you never/rarely had an orgasm? It would probably be unthinkable. Women aren't that different.
After my conversation with a member in another thread, I got to thinking... how important is sexual chemistry and reaching orgasm to women when looking for bf/husband? On your list of deal breakers, is it close to the top, in the middle, somewhere near the bottom?
Would you chose, good job, maturity, compassionate, affectionate, good husband father, attentive etc over your sexual needs being met. Ideally, a man would be all of those things, but say you could only reach orgasm through oral sex, and the man refused to perform it, would that be a deal breaker? If he was everything above, but the sex was just "okay", would those other qualities make up for the lack of sexual compatibility? If after 20 years of marriage the spark wasn't there and couldn't be recovered (but he was still a good husband and father), would you divorce to find someone you had a sexual spark with (like a lot of men do)?
How important is sex and reaching orgasm to women?
This is a little complicated because everyone is different. There are women (and yes, even men) who can go on happily in life never reaching the big "O" or they are content with mediocre sex. I think it all depends on a person's drive. Is it the end-all, be-all? Probably not but in the long run, a person might resort to seeking something elsewhere. It's also a touchy subject and a bit complicated to divorce someone simply because the sexual spark has fizzled. There are obligations to consider, such as children and finances. My BIL left his wife for another woman mainly because of the lack of intimacy on her part (according to him). Fast-forward 15 years later, he cheated on the woman he left the wife for and has had countless women thereafter, most of whom he cheats on because he finds faults in every single one of them when it comes to intimacy. Some people simply cannot be satisfied.
OP, are you a guy? Would you joyfully accept a sex life where you never/rarely had an orgasm? It would probably be unthinkable. Women aren't that different.
I'm a women and no I wouldn't. Sex is a deal breaker. I just know quite a few women who have less then exciting sex lives, but always use "oh, but he's a great _____,which was the most important thing when I married/became his gf".
If neither of you care about good sex, then such a relationship can work. Otherwise, someone is going to be unhappy and unsatisfied. Many marriages reach this point, it seems and we read here in the forums about what often happens!
The only alternatives when all else is great - but won't work for most people - are open relationships and live-in b/f or g/f. I know couples and thruples who have resorted to one of these and have lasting, working relationships - but they are far, far from typical!
I wouldn't compromise anything for good sex. It's the foundation (at least for me) of the entire relationship. If the sex isn't great, nothing else will be.
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