Where are the non-losers at? (advice, mature, percentage, social)
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Let me lay out a scenario...most of us guys want to celebrate occasions...
If a guy wants to be with his buds for a wedding party/bachelor night out, etc., leave it alone...
...I'm not in any way telling you too accept addiction or mistreatment but you'll be more successful in relationships if you allow for people's random imperfections...and, having fun...
I do allow it. I'm not controlling at all. It's my preference to only date guys who don't drink or rarely drink. I don't get with someone and force them not to.
I'm not going to date an alcoholic/woman abuser in training.
My mother is an alcoholic. After growing up in a household like that I can barely stand to look at the stuff, let alone fathom why any sane person would want to poison their self to where they're not even the same person.
But anyway, like I said, I talk to guys about their drinking habits before I date them. If I can handle it, then I pursue them, if not, bye bye.
If you're surrounded by losers, then you're in the wrong neighborhood. Start hanging out with a better quality of person, whether in your school, your leisure time, your city, or wherever. It is up to you to find a better class of people.
My mother is an alcoholic. After growing up in a household like that I can barely stand to look at the stuff, let alone fathom why any sane person would want to poison their self to where they're not even the same person.
well there it is...
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Originally Posted by Nimz
But anyway, like I said, I talk to guys about their drinking habits before I date them. If I can handle it, then I pursue them, if not, bye bye.
As you should...and I applaud your preparedness...but understand that if you eliminate all guys that ever celbrate an occasion, ever, you end up eliminating a huge percentage of the available dating pool... and then you end up back here twenty years from now complaining about guys and their insensitivity...
I'm just sayin'...you're young and beautiful...find a guy, worship him like there's no other, support him...and, let him support you, let him be your anchor...
I'm 18. I graduated high school early. I have a car, a job, and I'll be starting school soon. I also have my own place.
The only guys ever interested in me are 20-somethings who live at home, have no car, no job, and don't go to school.
The only non-loser who's ever talked to me isn't even interested in dating, lol. Ouch.
So where are decent guys at?
LOL! Bless you, this is one of the easiest questions to answer we've gotten in a long time. The non-losers are in the college you'll be starting soon. A whole new world will open up for you. Just bear in mind that in this economy, some of them will be living at home, since college is so expensive. Others will be there on full scholarships, and will be working to pay rent or dorm fee, so they may be too busy to spend as much time as they'd like socializing.
The main thing in college is to join organizations and groups. It's hard to meet people in class, they're usually just rushing from one class to the next. The way to meet people is by joining activities.
Congratulations on getting a strong, early start to you life. Give it time--finding a good match isn't easy. In the meantime, have fun, study well. Let us know how you do, after you've been in school awhile. And btw, a lot of the older guys who invite Freshman women on dates seem to mistake dating for an escort service. They expect too much on the 1st date, if you get my drift.
There will be students who aren't into alcohol, you just have to find him. None of my friends in college had any interest in alcohol. The stereotype that college is all about partying isn't true. There's a wide variety of crowds. Mingle, and find yours.
LOL! Bless you, this is one of the easiest questions to answer we've gotten in a long time. The non-losers are in the college you'll be starting soon. A whole new world will open up for you. Just bear in mind that in this economy, some of them will be living at home, since college is so expensive. Others will be there on full scholarships, and will be working to pay rent or dorm fee, so they may be too busy to spend as much time as they'd like socializing.
The main thing in college is to join organizations and groups. It's hard to meet people in class, they're usually just rushing from one class to the next. The way to meet people is by joining activities.
Congratulations on getting a strong, early start to you life. Give it time--finding a good match isn't easy. In the meantime, have fun, study well. Let us know how you do, after you've been in school awhile. And btw, a lot of the older guys who invite Freshman women on dates seem to mistake dating for an escort service. They expect too much on the 1st date, if you get my drift.
There will be students who aren't into alcohol, you just have to find him. None of my friends in college had any interest in alcohol. The stereotype that college is all about partying isn't true. There's a wide variety of crowds. Mingle, and find yours.
Ruth, I love you lots, but this is horrible advice and horrible help...
To be honest, there aren't any real "WINNERS" at 18, most guys are just into getting some tail, drinking and being idiots. ... I would be exactly what you are looking for, 10 years ago.
I never drank smoked or did drugs. That meant I had money to do fun things - out doors, etc and go to lots of cool places. I was more into hanging with my fam and spending time with them. I have GREAT memories of my girlfriend from that time, she didnt drink either, she was a great girl!!
I still don't do drugs or smoke, I still work hard, I'm a genuine guy who will not play games and I've NEVER just been about sex with a girl. I dream about falling in love with another good girl. I suppose that's why young girls usually go for older guys.
Trust me, there's tons of guys out there that are decent, they just aren't as easy to find..
To be honest, there aren't any real "WINNERS" at 18, most guys are just into getting some tail, drinking and being idiots. ... I would be exactly what you are looking for, 10 years ago.
I never drank smoked or did drugs. That meant I had money to do fun things - out doors, etc and go to lots of cool places. I was more into hanging with my fam and spending time with them. I have GREAT memories of my girlfriend from that time, she didnt drink either, she was a great girl!!
I still don't do drugs or smoke, I still work hard, I'm a genuine guy who will not play games and I've NEVER just been about sex with a girl. I dream about falling in love with another good girl. I suppose that's why young girls usually go for older guys.
Trust me, there's tons of guys out there that are decent, they just aren't as easy to find..
There are a lot of young girls out there that are just as bad as the guys. Sometimes worse. Trust me man, The OP is pretty unique.
There are a lot of young girls out there that are just as bad as the guys. Sometimes worse. Trust me man, The OP is pretty unique.
Well then I feel lucky. I met a beautiful 17 year old walking down a beach when I was 18. She never smoked, drank or did drugs, probably still haven't. For the whole relationship, 2 years, she continued to want to "save it till marriage" and we stayed true to that. She's very sucessfull now and has never been even close to a bad girl. Even when she dumped me because she wanted to go with someone else, she was crying and gave me a kiss goodbye. Best girlfriend ever!
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and then you end up back here twenty years from now complaining about guys and their insensitivity...
The non-losers are in the college you'll be starting soon. A whole new world will open up for you. Just bear in mind that in this economy, some of them will be living at home, since college is so expensive. Others will be there on full scholarships, and will be working to pay rent or dorm fee, so they may be too busy to spend as much time as they'd like socializing.
