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What is the best way for a guy to bring out the kinder, more affectionate side in the ladies? (Meant here in both romantic and non-romantic contexts?)
For me personally, it has largely sort of been very hit-or-miss and trial-and-error, with widely-varying results...so I just thought it couldn't hurt to try to ask the question here, if anyone has any advice that they could please share more info about
I will admit that I love pet names... I call everyone by random pet names, including my girlfriends. One of my guy friends calls me 'Honey Bear' and I always thought that was really cute
However, I must know you before that happens, otherwise it can come off as condescending and not genuine. Of course, if a guy called me Princess I'd be a bit offended and think I was coming across as too needy. That's why my Dog's nickname is Princess
What is the best way for a guy to bring out the kinder, more affectionate side in the ladies? (Meant here in both romantic and non-romantic contexts?)
For me personally, it has largely sort of been very hit-or-miss and trial-and-error, with widely-varying results...so I just thought it couldn't hurt to try to ask the question here, if anyone has any advice that they could please share more info about
here's my take --
if a woman thinks she can do better than you (which has a more to do with her self-image than it does with reality), and you show her affection, then she will be revolted by it.
if a woman has the mentality that you're great, that she's lucky to be with you, then she'll cherish your affection and return it.
those are the extremes... i think normally you're somewhere in the middle dealing with the day-to-day fluctuation of moods of different people and their own feelings about themselves and about you. Women with extremely high self-esteem (whether short-term or long-term) are cold and unaffectionate, in my experience. It pays to be observant.
if a woman thinks she can do better than you (which has a more to do with her self-image than it does with reality), and you show her affection, then she will be revolted by it.
if a woman has the mentality that you're great, that she's lucky to be with you, then she'll cherish your affection and return it.
those are the extremes... i think normally you're somewhere in the middle dealing with the day-to-day fluctuation of moods of different people and their own feelings about themselves and about you. Women with extremely high self-esteem (whether short-term or long-term) are cold and unaffectionate, in my experience. It pays to be observant.
You nailed this.
I've been stuck with the first part most of my life up until now. Never met so many "eww" faces just by warming up to someone. Laughed at I was used to, but the "eww"? That's just not a mature rejection. At times it feels like you're robbing her just asking her out for coffee. Then I learned Kingman women just suck.
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You nailed this.
I've been stuck with the first part most of my life up until now. Never met so many "eww" faces just by warming up to someone. Laughed at I was used to, but the "eww"? That's just not a mature rejection. At times it feels like you're robbing her just asking her out for coffee. Then I learned Kingman women just suck.
Phoenix on the other hand.... good times.
That's what I'm talking about. A lot of women will act all offended if you show interest, try to be friendly. That's what I meant when I said that few women these days will take kindly to being randomly approached. Some may put on a front, and the gullible guys will go in a schmo, but genuine interest is there or it's not.
You talk to them with sincerity. No games. No strategems to get into her pants. Just the normal things that any well-adjusted person does to create trust.
I loved when one of my guys called me Princess. He is now an ex but it was one of my faves. He really meant it too. He thought I was his princess and treated me as such. But I treated him equally as well. He would say,"What's wrong Princess" or "Heeeey Pretty Girl". He was a confident guy that had no problem showing me that I meant the world to him. "Babydoll" was another one. Loved them all. Worked for me.
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