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Wouldn't it be better for the wife to actually articulate that to her husband rather than making him stew and stress and wonder what is up with her?
The thing is, these feelings of hers are likely coming from a very deep place and she may not even know yet herself why she is doing what she is doing.
Continuing to talk it through would be helpful to them both
The thing is, these feelings of hers are likely coming from a very deep place and she may not even know yet herself why she is doing what she is doing.
Continuing to talk it through would be helpful to them both
But it seems she is not talking it through. She is saying one thing and then reacting negatively to him as though he excluded her from the process.
OP, have you inquired very directly about this situation? Have you said "Yesterday you were all good with this and today you're snippy and cold about it. What's up with that?"
But it seems she is not talking it through. She is saying one thing and then reacting negatively to him as though he excluded her from the process.
OP, have you inquired very directly about this situation? Have you said "Yesterday you were all good with this and today you're snippy and cold about it. What's up with that?"
Agreed, she is not talking it through with him - again probably because she doesn't even understand why she is feeling and acting like she is.
"Continuing to talk it out" means he should pursue more conversation with her to get her to identify what she is actually feeling.
It drives me bat**** crazy when my husband asks for my opinion or advice and then completely disregards it. It makes me feel like he's only asking for "show" and he's going to do what he wants anyway.
It's actually gotten to the point in my house where I just don't share my opinion or advice when he asks anymore because I cannot STAND to have it dismissed. I just say "yup, sounds great dear".
Her comment "No, you bought yourself one." makes it sound like she's aggrivated that you didn't feel tent camping was good enough. Maybe she really enjoyed that activity with you and didn't feel it needed to be improved or changed?
This is one of my suspicions to be honest. However, clarity of that opinion was, from my perspective, woefully absent prior to having handed over the money.
But it seems she is not talking it through. She is saying one thing and then reacting negatively to him as though he excluded her from the process.
OP, have you inquired very directly about this situation? Have you said "Yesterday you were all good with this and today you're snippy and cold about it. What's up with that?"
I will bring it up again later. We are due to take delivery today too, but I am more than willing to put that on hold or let that fall thru too. (Honestly, the stress has removed all joy from it anyway).
This is one of my suspicions to be honest. However, clarity of that opinion was, from my perspective, woefully absent prior to having handed over the money.
Let us know when you get to the bottom of things (hopefully later this evening)
In my experience, women can have contradictory feelings in a very short period of time. Happy one moment and then a quick change. Don't blame them. Women are more influenced by feelings. She may have been excited and then fear after making the commitment to spend the money. Feelings come and go. Don't let it rock you. Be the man. If she said she's OK, then just let it go, and don't fuss.
I don't know that this issue is really about money.
Changing the method of camping changes the dynamic involved. Maybe she enjoys camping in a tent so much that she doesn't want to lose that connection with you and she thinks that if she does not support your desire for a pop-up that you will be upset.
There is definitely something amiss here. Maybe she prefers to camp in places where a pop up cannot go.
I don't know that this issue is really about money.
Changing the method of camping changes the dynamic involved. Maybe she enjoys camping in a tent so much that she doesn't want to lose that connection with you and she thinks that if she does not support your desire for a pop-up that you will be upset.
There is definitely something amiss here. Maybe she prefers to camp in places where a pop up cannot go.
YOu really need to find out and talk about it.
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Not so sure you are on the right track. He said this about his wife...
"She agreed it was a good and practical idea. We started looking around, she was excited and into it".
Not so sure you are on the right track. He said this about his wife...
"She agreed it was a good and practical idea. We started looking around, she was excited and into it".
She was probably faking it so as not to rock the boat or cause an argument.
I was "excited" about my kitchen renovation too...but I secretly hate it. Well hate is a strong word, but it is the polar opposite of what I would have picked.
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