The 'Window of Opportunity' when you meet someone (woman, friends, romantic)

[NoDoubt1993]

I know I can't make a guy want to hang out, lol. I'm just trying to figure out how to slow them down and establish a friendship first before segueing into dating.

[the minx]

Originally Posted by NoDoubt1993

I know I can't make a guy want to hang out, lol. I'm just trying to figure out how to slow them down and establish a friendship first before segueing into dating.

But if they like you, they aren't going to want to establish a friendship first for fear of the friendzone.

[srjth]

Yes, absolutely.

I think a lot of men are slow.

[OdysseusNY]

Originally Posted by srjth

Yes, absolutely.

I think a lot of men are slow.

many years ago, i think i waited about a month to kiss some chick

her reaction was worded something like "thank god! you're great but i was starting to worry that you were gay"

luckily, we were able to prove our heterosexuality to each other

and i just thought i was being polite. what can i say, i was young and foolish

[LS Jaun]

Originally Posted by OdysseusNY

many years ago, i think i waited about a month to kiss some chick

her reaction was worded something like "thank god! you're great but i was starting to worry that you were gay"

luckily, we were able to prove our heterosexuality to each other

and i just thought i was being polite. what can i say, i was young and foolish

Yep, I can see that "young and foolish". There is a window of oppurtunity and it varies, sometimes big and sometimes narrow!

[srjth]

Originally Posted by OdysseusNY

many years ago, i think i waited about a month to kiss some chick

her reaction was worded something like "thank god! you're great but i was starting to worry that you were gay"

luckily, we were able to prove our heterosexuality to each other

and i just thought i was being polite. what can i say, i was young and foolish

Yeah, it's easy to think a guy is gay but I try not to jump to that. I mostly think they're just not feeling me and not all that interested in me.

[himain]

No I think that if there's an attraction there it stays. It doesn't fleet away unless something happens to make that attraction change..

[OdysseusNY]

Originally Posted by srjth

Yeah, it's easy to think a guy is gay but I try not to jump to that. I mostly think they're just not feeling me and not all that interested in me.

she didn't actually think i was gay. she was just wondering why i hadn't made a move and teased me once I did

we moved pretty quickly afterwards and i never made that mistake again. good times. we both learned a lot from each other

[srjth]

Originally Posted by himain

No I think that if there's an attraction there it stays. It doesn't fleet away unless something happens to make that attraction change..

Often people start dating someone else.

[himain]

Originally Posted by srjth

Often people start dating someone else.

I understand that but what time frame we talking here? A day? A week? A month?