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Hang in there. Its just a phase & will pass away soon. I understand how difficult it is to rejoice in someone else's success when you are going through tough times. Feelings of jealousy & sadness are natural so dont fight it, just accept it as it is. Sometimes the successful person tries giving you unnecessary advice or wisdom about relationships & that makes it worse.
I read somewhere that when people are going through a lucky phase, the universe is showering blessings on them & if you stand right next to them some of the magical dust will fall on you too & change your luck. I know it sounds childish but give it a try. Surround yourself with happy people & some of the happiness might rub on to you. Its called the law of attraction. Good moods, people & thoughts attract happy events in your life. Its like you are sending a signal to the universe that you want to be happy like the people around you. I read about the law of attraction in this wonderful book called 'the secret' by rhonda byrnes.
My room mate has a new BF & he is a great guy but I miss hanging with her at the same time. I'm glad she's happy but ingoring me & things she needs to be doing really miffs me! I've had this happen to me with past friends they get into a new realtionship & all of a sudden you become pond scum. Once the new wears off your back to being 1#. I guess the start of it is what gets me the most.
I have one particular friend, who has been a best friend to me for over a decade and lately I haven't been able to feel happy for her.
Over the past 2 years, I broke up with 2 men...1st one just wanted to date and not be with me officially. Second one, same thing...the 2nd one I fell in love with though after dating for about a year. So long story short, I'm in a place I've never been before...still heartbroken after a year of breaking up with him, still missing him, and in kind of a lonely/sad/depressed place.
While I was dating the 2nd man, my best friend was going through a divorce after being married for 8 years, but had a boyfriend in the midst of all of it...for some reason I noticed the jealousy I was having towards her around that time. My relationship was heading downhill...I was with a man who spent most of his time with me, slept with me, but just didn't want to commit to me. Yet, here she was, with a boyfriend that was proposing to her before she could even get out of her current marriage.
I've since moved away to another state and city for a new job, but partially also to escape the thoughts of being in the same city with someone I love but can't be with. In the meanwhile, she's reached out to me but I simply don't want to talk to her because I can't feel happy for her and her new man, and I don't want to fake it because...I can't.
I've never felt this way in my life before....I've spent most of my life being single and having no problem with it, but something about the failure of the last two relationships has "broken something in me". I don't know how to handle feeling this way.
My sympathies. I am dealing with something somewhat similar, so I have no advice.
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I've had this happen to me with past friends they get into a new realtionship & all of a sudden you become pond scum. Once the new wears off your back to being 1#. I guess the start of it is what gets me the most.
