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I have one particular friend, who has been a best friend to me for over a decade and lately I haven't been able to feel happy for her.
Over the past 2 years, I broke up with 2 men...1st one just wanted to date and not be with me officially. Second one, same thing...the 2nd one I fell in love with though after dating for about a year. So long story short, I'm in a place I've never been before...still heartbroken after a year of breaking up with him, still missing him, and in kind of a lonely/sad/depressed place.
While I was dating the 2nd man, my best friend was going through a divorce after being married for 8 years, but had a boyfriend in the midst of all of it...for some reason I noticed the jealousy I was having towards her around that time. My relationship was heading downhill...I was with a man who spent most of his time with me, slept with me, but just didn't want to commit to me. Yet, here she was, with a boyfriend that was proposing to her before she could even get out of her current marriage.
I've since moved away to another state and city for a new job, but partially also to escape the thoughts of being in the same city with someone I love but can't be with. In the meanwhile, she's reached out to me but I simply don't want to talk to her because I can't feel happy for her and her new man, and I don't want to fake it because...I can't.
I've never felt this way in my life before....I've spent most of my life being single and having no problem with it, but something about the failure of the last two relationships has "broken something in me". I don't know how to handle feeling this way.
It's admirable of you to publicly admit to being so jealous or your friend.
I'd hate to see you lose the friendship forever, so why not just let her know you are dealing with a difficult time right now and just don't have the energy to communicate with her. You know, put her off for a few months until you can overcome all your feelings.
And you do need to work on overcoming those feelings okay?
If you feel unable to do that on your own, consider having a few sessions with a therapist. Everyone gets stuck in their feelings every once in a while, but you can get past this!
Sometimes the disappointments of life can really suck the air right out of us and lay us out flat. You just need to come back up swinging and fight it
No offense, but this is a personal problem you need to deal with. You're not obligated to feel happy for her, but she is a friend and she wants to see you. She's reaching out to you and you're stuck in "me" mode. My $0.02- get out of "me" mode and have some fun with your friend. Life is short and if all you do it look for friends who have it rougher then you, what does this tell you? Naw, go on, call her up, go out together and have some fun.
you're losing your man card for this post.. what the hell is all this "i can't live in the same city as this person cuz i love them so much but i can't be them" crap.. ***** man up
you're losing your man card for this post.. what the hell is all this "i can't live in the same city as this person cuz i love them so much but i can't be them" crap.. ***** man up
you're losing your man card for this post.. what the hell is all this "i can't live in the same city as this person cuz i love them so much but i can't be them" crap.. ***** man up
you're losing your man card for this post.. what the hell is all this "i can't live in the same city as this person cuz i love them so much but i can't be them" crap.. ***** man up
I tried to rep you for your post, but it wouldn't take it.
you're losing your man card for this post.. what the hell is all this "i can't live in the same city as this person cuz i love them so much but i can't be them" crap.. ***** man up
You are so eager to be a douche to the OP failing to realize that she's a woman.
you're losing your man card for this post.. what the hell is all this "i can't live in the same city as this person cuz i love them so much but i can't be them" crap.. ***** man up
I'm a woman.
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