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Just echoing the others who've said no to the friend request. I also second looking into Meetup as a way to meet people. I've made a lot of great friends that way.
Because it is hard to say "No, sorry you can't have my number" while you are standing in front of someone. It feels rude to say that to someone's face especially for younger women. (after age 30 we don't give a flip and will just say "Nope, sorry" )
Usually a younger woman will simply give a guy (or girl I guess in this case) a fake number if not interested. But if you have mutual friends (or have acquaintances in common or go to school together, etc) its easier to just give the real number but not response if the person calls.
So if you have called/texted this person once or twice and they have not reciprocated, then they are not interested and its time to move on. The last thing that you want to do is to come across like a stalker (ie sending FB friend requests or Twitter or whatever) because that will get you labeled as creepy.
I was hesitating to add this next part but I think I will just go ahead anyway. Sometimes lesbians have a problem with respecting boundaries of women that they are interested in. No one wants to be stalked. No means no doesn't just apply to man/woman interactions. So if a person does not reciprocate your feelings don't obsess, just drop it and move on.
she hugged and kissed me on the cheek so im confused, but whatever
she hugged and kissed me on the cheek so im confused, but whatever
But that's what we (girls/women) do. It didn't necessarily "mean" anything. Some women are huggers. Some women are hand-holders. Some women are kissers. But the vast majority do it with platonic intent. And also people that have a lot of European friends get used to doing the social kiss (the double-cheek or air kiss) and do it with everyone that they meet as a simple "hello" or "goodbye" greeting. It shouldn't be read as an intimate exchange or as an 'invitation'.
I'd try the Facebook message first before adding. The thing with Facebook is you really gotta be careful with friend requests. If she outright deletes it, that's a strike against you. Too many declined requests results in Facebook putting a temporary block on you. I think the same goes for having too many pending friend requests outstanding.
I agree with NOT sending her a friend request. You called her, and got no response. You texted her, and got no response.
If she really wanted to get to know you, she would have responded. That's the cold hard truth. I would NOT attempt to make ANY further contact with her.
So I went out with a friend Friday night and met a cute girl at the club. We're from the same state and she's pret ty cool. I found her on facebook and I'm kinda debating added her as a friend. I'd like to get to know her, but I dont want to be creepy about it. I know it's a trivial matter, well kinda but I'm new to the city and I need people to hangout with. Lol.
I say, "yay". Let her know you're new in town, you enjoyed talking to her, ask if she'd like to hang out. You've got nothing to lose. I think it's a great idea. You wouldn't have to do a friend request, you could send her a message. If she doesn't respond, then let it go.
Oh...you called her, AND texted her, and got no response? Well, that puts a little different light on it. idk, I could go either way on this one. Maybe 3rd time's a charm? Or 3rd time's too much. Put it up to a vote, lol!
Last edited by Ruth4Truth; 08-28-2012 at 04:21 PM..
I'm just going to focus on making new friends and tryingto better myself. this seems too stressful and complex
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