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Ha, i looked at this list, and i think i pretty much do everything on the bad side of the list.
I do 2 or 3 things on that list too. Who cares? Nobody's perfect...I know two people out of works with Ph.D's, one them is/was a very successful executive. I don't have a Ph.D and I have a full time job. So the economy doesn't care about LM's little list on how people should conduct themselves. LOL.
I do 2 or 3 things on that list too. Who cares? Nobody's perfect...I know two people out of works with Ph.D's, one them is/was a very successful executive. I don't have a Ph.D and I have a full time job. So the economy doesn't care about LM's little list on how people should conduct themselves. LOL.
Nice dig
It is not MY list, just one I read and agreed with, so I copied and pasted it to try to help some folks here.
In addition, it is not a list telling anyone what they "should" do.
It simply lists the things people who are successful in life and relationships are doing, and those things that unsuccessful people tend to do.
Some people here are totally clueless about life.
They waste their time creating thread after thread about how unfair life is, never quite getting what they are doing wrong or could be doing differently.
They are their own worst enemies.
And they all make me very sad because I know no one cared enough about them to teach them the things they needed to know to navigate this world more successfully.
Will this list help everyone? Of course not.
But it may help a few folks here, and that's what really counts
Without reading the entire thread, I'm pretty sure where this is going. The OP laid out some pretty sound rules and the nitpicking begins. "But I'm the exception." "Well, I know someone who lived that way and his life turned out like crap." "I tried living that way and look what happened."
I realize that there are exceptions such as chronic diseases or acts of God. But, for 99% of us, the rules laid out pretty much apply.
To me, the most apparent common thread among unsuccessful people is this: The inability to understand how their own actions and attitudes have contributed to their unhappiness, compounded by their inability to make fundamental changes in how they approach the world.
In a nutshell, if you bounce from one loser to the next, then really examine why you are so attracted to losers. If you lose one job after another, you might want to examine your work habits rather than just blame a series of incompetent and venal employers. If you can't get a steady date on Saturday nights, you might ask the question, "Well, would I date me?" If you feel you don't have the right skills to improve your professional life and make you more marketable, then perhaps you should start working towards that end.
Hey, everybody has screwed up royally in their lives at one time or another. None of us live perfect lives. To me, then, the ability to analyze one's mistakes and really rectify one's approaches in life becomes the key determinant of future happiness.
Without reading the entire thread, I'm pretty sure where this is going. The OP laid out some pretty sound rules and the nitpicking begins. "But I'm the exception." "Well, I know someone who lived that way and his life turned out like crap." "I tried living that way and look what happened."
I realize that there are exceptions such as chronic diseases or acts of God. But, for 99% of us, the rules laid out pretty much apply.
To me, the most apparent common thread among unsuccessful people is this: The inability to understand how their own actions and attitudes have contributed to their unhappiness, compounded by their inability to make fundamental changes in how they approach the world.
In a nutshell, if you bounce from one loser to the next, then really examine why you are so attracted to losers. If you lose one job after another, you might want to examine your work habits rather than just blame a series of incompetent and venal employers. If you can't get a steady date on Saturday nights, you might ask the question, "Well, would I date me?" If you feel you don't have the right skills to improve your professional life and make you more marketable, then perhaps you should start working towards that end.
Hey, everybody has screwed up royally in their lives at one time or another. None of us live perfect lives. To me, then, the ability to analyze one's mistakes and really rectify one's approaches in life becomes the key determinant of future happiness.
Bravo! I might as well request the thread be closed down now
You said a mouthful with this...
The ability to analyze one's mistakes and really rectify one's approaches in life becomes the key determinant of future happiness.
When people stop fighting this message and truly take some personal responsibility for where they find themselves, their lives can be infinitely better
Most people don't need a website to tell them to take personal responsibility. I think that's most people problem with stuff life this. However on the flip side why don't they fix their problems. Humans are lazy.
I agree with the list. I can safely say I used to have a lot of the traits on the bad side. It wasn't until I hit rock bottom and woke the hell up did I start following the traits on the good side.
You are responsible for your own actions and your own life and how you handle things. Only you have the power to let people affect you. Everything starts from within and goes from there. I know it sounds cheesy and cliche as hell. But I was an absolutely miserable person, blaming everyone and everything for my situation. It wasn't until I took responsibility and did something about it, did my life get infinitely better, and I am so much more happier for it. Had I not been happy with my life, I might not have attracted the new job, or the BF. You get back what you give in.
Unfortunately, I know quite a few people, including some family members who are still living and following the traits of the bad side. So I try to avoid these people. Before I didn't see anything wrong with them, but now my eyes are wide open. I can't stand negativity and complacency in people anymore and mind you, I was the most negative and complacent person going. It almost makes me want to apologize to the people who had to put up with me.
I agree with the list. I can safely say I used to have a lot of the traits on the bad side. It wasn't until I hit rock bottom and woke the hell up did I start following the traits on the good side.
You are responsible for your own actions and your own life and how you handle things. Only you have the power to let people affect you. Everything starts from within and goes from there. I know it sounds cheesy and cliche as hell. But I was an absolutely miserable person, blaming everyone and everything for my situation. It wasn't until I took responsibility and did something about it, did my life get infinitely better, and I am so much more happier for it. Had I not been happy with my life, I might not have attracted the new job, or the BF. You get back what you give in.
Unfortunately, I know quite a few people, including some family members who are still living and following the traits of the bad side. So I try to avoid these people. Before I didn't see anything wrong with them, but now my eyes are wide open. I can't stand negativity and complacency in people anymore and mind you, I was the most negative and complacent person going. It almost makes me want to apologize to the people who had to put up with me.
Woo hoo! Great post!
I'm so happy for you and how you turned things around for yourself, that's awesome
Got this on my Facebook page this morning and think it could be very valuable info for some here in light of some of the recent threads and posts I've noticed
Successful people Unsuccessful people:
Have a sense of gratitude Have a sense of entitlement
Forgive others Hold grudges (seek revenge)
Accept all responsibility Blame others for their failures (especially the opposite gender) for their failures
Give other people credit Take all the credit of their victories for their victories
Compliment Criticize
Talk about ideas Talk about people
Want others to succeed secretly want others to fail and celebrate when they do
Share information Hoard information and data and data
Set goals and develop Never set goals life plans
Embrace change Fear change
Exude joy Exude anger
Continuously learn Think they know it all
Have empathy for the pain of others Laugh when others are hurting
Operate from a Operate from a transactional perspective
transformational perspective
Ironically, I'm able to forgive others, but hold massive grudges with myself. I have trouble accepting my failures and beat myself up about it (especially in dating).
I would venture to guess that others that are having trouble may do similar things.
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