Food for thought...successful people versus unsuccessful people (wife, guy, younger)
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It would be interesting to see what peopel think it means to be successful.
The definition of success can vary depending on who you talk to, but you'll find a substantial number of successful people measured by any metric got there by busting their ass.
Of course it doesn't mean you will get success in EVERYthing you apply it to.................. but it definitely contributes to greater happiness and better relationships overall.
I just posted this on the 'nice guys' thread, seems relevant here too:
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That was a perfect example of what is wrong with 'nice guys.' They put all the power in someone else's hands - comparing getting girls to getting a promotion at work, saying it is 'luck' or someone else's decision. These types take no responsibility for themselves and so will never get ahead. If they admitted, yeah, I am doing something wrong, I will try harder or take different approaches until I succeed, then they would get somewhere. Instead they are bitter and complain that their failure is everyone's fault but their own.
Basically, success comes down to taking full responsibility for yourself and your lot in life. That is really all there is to it. Do that and the rest will come together.
I just posted this on the 'nice guys' thread, seems relevant here too:
Basically, success comes down to taking full responsibility for yourself and your lot in life. That is really all there is to it. Do that and the rest will come together.
Personal responsibility and attitude - the keys to getting everything you want in life
I think though that ultimately, the successful person will embrace the unwanted change of a spouse leaving them once the shock of the change has worn off, versus the unsuccessful person who wants to remain a "victim" for the rest of their lives.
Indeed - it took my mother a while, but after she split with my father she realized she was happier than she had been during their 25 years of marriage. I see many women her age who are still wallowing in anger and bitterness, but she's having the time of her life.
Indeed - it took my mother a while, but after she split with my father she realized she was happier than she had been during their 25 years of marriage. I see many women her age who are still wallowing in anger and bitterness, but she's having the time of her life.
I've know a few of those kinds of women who would rather play victim for years and years after their husbands have moved on - what a waste!
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Then what what was with you linking this thread in a rep comment to me on a post that was about me getting revenge on others? You trying to tell me something?
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