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Old 08-22-2012, 06:56 AM
 
Location: Greenbelt, MD
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I'm lucky, have had some rejections but not many. The key is I do my homework before going in for the kill.
If the signals aren't positive, you will likely be rejected. The funny thing about human nature though is this......
When someone you are attracted to gives you the cold shoulder, or cold signals, this often only heightens your interest in them.
It doesn't for me.

I take the hint and back off.

Their loss...
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Old 08-22-2012, 06:57 AM
 
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I'm so sick of seeing people whine about the whole "guys ask/pay/whatever and girls get pick & choose" stuff. It is 2012. Women ask men out. Women pay. If you're a guy and all you date are women who expect you to do the pursuing/asking/paying, ask yourself why YOU surround yourself with women like this. Maybe the problem is YOU, not the women.

Yes, I put my money where my mouth is. I have asked guys out (and subsequently, properly paid). I will continue to do so.

As for rejection, it sucks regardless of who you are -- male, female, gay, straight, whatever.
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Old 08-22-2012, 07:02 AM
 
Location: New Zealand and Australia
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It doesn't for me.

I take the hint and back off.

Their loss...

It generally does for me and I can even recall the last time it happened.

Was buying from a girl in retail I find/found very attractive. Her whole body language was lets get this over with, untalk-ative, didn't look me in the eye. Yes, poor customer service.....but it heightened my interest in her.
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Old 08-22-2012, 07:02 AM
 
Location: Greenbelt, MD
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I'm so sick of seeing people whine about the whole "guys ask/pay/whatever and girls get pick & choose" stuff. It is 2012. Women ask men out. Women pay. If you're a guy and all you date are women who expect you to do the pursuing/asking/paying, ask yourself why YOU surround yourself with women like this. Maybe the problem is YOU, not the women.

Yes, I put my money where my mouth is. I have asked guys out (and subsequently, properly paid). I will continue to do so.

As for rejection, it sucks regardless of who you are -- male, female, gay, straight, whatever.
How do you go about changing this?

I've been single for 30 years of my adult life and I have only been asked out once.

I go out more than the average person does, my age or not.
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Old 08-22-2012, 07:05 AM
 
Location: New Zealand and Australia
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It generally does for me and I can even recall the last time it happened.

Was buying from a girl in retail I find/found very attractive. Her whole body language was lets get this over with, untalk-ative, didn't look me in the eye. Yes, poor customer service.....but it heightened my interest in her.

I should add, it often works the same for both sexes......human nature.
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Old 08-22-2012, 07:26 AM
 
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How do you go about changing this?

I've been single for 30 years of my adult life and I have only been asked out once.

I go out more than the average person does, my age or not.
The women most likely to ask YOU out are successful, educated professionals. Go where they are.
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Old 08-22-2012, 09:40 AM
 
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SO what's the big deal about getting rejected anyway?

And why is it always the women/girls who do the rejecting?..
In response to bolded portion above: I honestly believe that it's intentional social engineering, unfortunately...
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Old 08-22-2012, 11:14 AM
 
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because at its core, a person is telling you that your personality, feelings, etc is not good enough. Most of us like to believe that we are decent human beings, so when somebody tells you aren't good enough for them, it can hurt your self esteem.
This, exactly.
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Old 08-22-2012, 11:34 AM
 
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My response for dealing with rejection - "Your loss".
I don't know if you mean that you just think that or if you actually say it, but whatever the case, it sounds bitter. Who wants to date that kind of person?
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Old 08-22-2012, 12:01 PM
 
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I'm so sick of seeing people whine about the whole "guys ask/pay/whatever and girls get pick & choose" stuff. It is 2012. Women ask men out. Women pay. If you're a guy and all you date are women who expect you to do the pursuing/asking/paying, ask yourself why YOU surround yourself with women like this. Maybe the problem is YOU, not the women.

Yes, I put my money where my mouth is. I have asked guys out (and subsequently, properly paid). I will continue to do so.

As for rejection, it sucks regardless of who you are -- male, female, gay, straight, whatever.
What does this have to do with a thread about rejection?
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