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because at its core, a person is telling you that your personality, feelings, etc is not good enough. Most of us like to believe that we are decent human beings, so when somebody tells you aren't good enough for them, it can hurt your self esteem.
This is exactly it. I've rejected in the past and it feels terrible...but I have to go with my gut feelings.
I've also been rejected more times than I can count, and it also feels terrible, but you can't force someone to have feelings for you. It's there, or it isn't.
because at its core, a person is telling you that your personality, feelings, etc is not good enough. Most of us like to believe that we are decent human beings, so when somebody tells you aren't good enough for them, it can hurt your self esteem.
And yet, most of us aren't right for a very high percentage of the people we even think about dating. We just have to keep reminding ourselves of that.
That's unacceptable.. But i assume before you do that you should know whether you could do that..
Sometimes the signals are mixed and mistaken. Kind of like approaching someone; they're signals are faint but the gesture was noticed and you approach only to get "No". It happens, though, to everybody.
Rejection is a part of life. Every single person gets rejected at one point or another. It may sting a little, but the more you get rejected, the less it stings and the easier it is to deal with. I ended up in a local bar this past weekend, did some solid approaches but got rejected each and every time, without as much as a flirt back. I thought that was pretty unusual, until i found out the next morning that it was a lesbian night at the place. I also got tossed from the establishment because couple of lesbians didnt appreciate me hitting on their girlfriends and used their vajayjay power to have me removed.
Rejection is a part of life. Every single person gets rejected at one point or another. It may sting a little, but the more you get rejected, the less it stings and the easier it is to deal with. I ended up in a local bar this past weekend, did some solid approaches but got rejected each and every time, without as much as a flirt back. I thought that was pretty unusual, until i found out the next morning that it was a lesbian night at the place. I also got tossed from the establishment because couple of lesbians didnt appreciate me hitting on their girlfriends and used their vajayjay power to have me removed.
How could you not know you were in a lesbain bar or at an event for lesbians?
That seems impossible. Using your words you got "tossed" yet didn't know until the next morning about the event? Your story doesn't add up.
How could you not know you were in a lesbain bar or at an event for lesbians?
That seems impossible.
It was a lesbian night, but none of the couples were acting any different than they would if they were just out with their girlfriends. I didnt see any hand holding or kissing or anything like that, no signs of affection. Also no butch looking type of chicks, mostly very feminine. Provided, whre i live in chi it is norm to see such, so perhaps i simply wasnt paying much attention either, not too mention this was after a bears game and a few beers...ha. Yes, i found out from a freind who works there that it was indeed a lesbian night, next morning.
It was a lesbian night, but none of the couples were acting any different than they would if they were just out with their girlfriends. I didnt see any hand holding or kissing or anything like that, no signs of affection. Also no butch looking type of chicks, mostly very feminine. Provided, whre i live in chi it is norm to see such, so perhaps i simply wasnt paying much attention either, not too mention this was after a bears game and a few beers...ha. Yes, i found out from a freind who works there that it was indeed a lesbian night, next morning.
What did they tell you when you got tossed from the club?
What did they tell you when you got tossed from the club?
They just told me they received some complaints from women there but nothing specific. I was little dumbfounded because i didnt get into any arguments or say anything too inapropriate to anyone. I was livid, becasue iv e never been tossed out of a place without knowing the actual reason. Im laughing at it now, though.
I'm lucky, have had some rejections but not many. The key is I do my homework before going in for the kill.
If the signals aren't positive, you will likely be rejected. The funny thing about human nature though is this......
When someone you are attracted to gives you the cold shoulder, or cold signals, this often only heightens your interest in them.
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