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Obviously, mostly men or boys have commented here. I relate almost completely. I am hurt seeing connections to basically local "hookers" although I know full well there has been no personal connection. I found, innocently, while browsing on his work Ipad, pork recently visited. I tried to tease him about it and even tried looking at these sites with him but he claimed that it must be the previous user of the ipad. Not possible. Also, he got mad when I was going to look it up.... cuz he doesn't want his employer to see this! This was like a month ago, yet, today, when he handed me his ipad, I got an instant, in my face, vagina/woman's labia, etc. I haven't said anything. I am told, by him, that I am a "vixen", sexy... and I am not bad, but shy to admit.... anyway, I too, am concerned. I have not been insecure to this point, but I am feeling so now. I can understand human needs but not the stupidity from some of these idiots posting on here. Child, go find a meat market. This man seems to be interested in a long term thing.... but he's lying, even when I tried to play about it.... help us both.
I don't understand husbands watching porn like teenagers when they have the REAL thing just beside them. A wife, a partner whatever. There are better ways to ignite the fire in a relationship (Victorias Secret, roleplaying...) and have sex like crazy...but jerking off with a wife, girlfriend, fiancee, I dunno...maybe I'm old fashioned.
Man, don't get me wrong I watch porn every now and then but to have this addiction, like when you need to light a cigarrette away from the Mrs, is just weird to keep these things away from someone you want to share your life with.
I'm not saying you don't need your privacy, because you do. But these porn thing, divides marriages and relationships, for some people it's like cheating. For others when you watch those things together it's suppose to bring more fire to the sexual relationship.
I dunno, I will not invite my wife to watch porn, I prefer to "make" things more real, I will show her a good time in the sack, romance, foreplay that's the key for a good sex recipe.
I don't understand husbands watching porn like teenagers when they have the REAL thing just beside them. A wife, a partner whatever. There are better ways to ignite the fire in a relationship (Victorias Secret, roleplaying...) and have sex like crazy...but jerking off with a wife, girlfriend, fiancee, I dunno...maybe I'm old fashioned.
Old fashioned or not I can imagine there are many men out there who are married to a woman who stopped having sex once she got married which is quite common. More common than the other way around as much as women don't want to admit that. So they look for another way to satisfy that need that the wife has ignored. Still, I don't justify it but I can understand it to an extend. Reasons will abound such as saying they are too tired, have a headache, he needs to do house chores or no sex, and so on. Men could say they would do house chores and jump through hoops if she gave the green light to have sex but when it comes to sex, women so far will always be the gatekeepers like it or not. Sure sure, there are exceptions. Of course it can be hurtful to be lied to on anything.
Endless threads about insecure, controlling women going ballistic on their husbands secretly watching porn. Any woman that belives their man never gets hard-ons, jerks off or fantasizes about other women is beyond delusional.
**SIGH**
As if. I don't know any grown, emotionally mature women who think this.
But it works the other way around, too:
Any man that believes their woman never becomes aroused, masturbates or fantasizes about other men is beyond delusional.
Not doing so is IMPOSSIBLE in a LTR, IMO.
And Ruth's right: that is different from what is going on in the OP's situation.
Just because almost every male in the world watches porn doesn't make it normal or ok.. a man in a realtionship should not be watching it in my opinion if his wife/gf/whatever is ready and willing tobtry whatever. You are looking at some random females body, and beating off to it then lying. How is your woman not supposed to be offended. Try ot all on your girl theres roleplay and whatnot... as for advice I have none except do whats gonna make you happy. I am also struggling with my mqn and porn and im always ready and willing to try anything I even suggest different things and I still catch him lying tome and honestly I guess im waiting to get so tired of it that I cant deal with it anymore and I leave with our two kids..good luck
a man in a realtionship should not be watching it in my opinion if his wife/gf/whatever is ready and willing tobtry whatever.
That entirely depends on the people in the relationship. There are no universal "Shoulds" and "should nots" in relationships with regards to this.
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You are looking at some random females body, and beating off to it then lying. How is your woman not supposed to be offended.
That would be more the right place to be concerned. There is nothing wrong with porn - in or out of a relationship - but there is if the person you are in the relationship with is against it - or if it is leading you to lie to them about it.
Ugh. My husband is addicted to nude pics and porn too. If you read my first response to this. I said I am not bovvered at first but wow for some reason, looking at his internet history today. When he knows I am mad at him for something he did, guess what he did first thing he opens his PC? Yeah naked pics.
Now he is looking at that infamous fappening pics that one that got famous coz of massive celeb hack pics . UGH!!!
It actually is starting to bother me. And I also don't know why he lies. Do men really think we are THAT stupid? Like really? Wow!!
I don't understand why guys still feel the need to look at this trash pics when they have a 'live' one at home, LOL. I mean really.
Maybe I can understand with him since he has been alone for along time almost 2 decades, after his 1st divorce.
But really, why lie? Honestly the one that looks MORE like an idiot is these guys including my husband.
I know one day, I will just tell him pointblank since he is too stupid to know that I KNOW he is lying to my face and just face the fact he is sick in the head like all guys that 'feel the need' to look at this garbage online EVERY freaking day they have a chance to.
Wow. Pathetic losers. Yes and that's including my idiot husband!
Honestly, I really believe this should really be classified LEGALLY as a sex crime!! I can't believe after all that attention coz of the recent celeb nude hack telling EVERYONE it is a sex crime, these sickos including my husband doesn't give a sh-it, and continues to still look at this trash!
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