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A few months and now sex has changed from almost every day to once a week!
I've already expressed my frustration and I've stated I see a lack of sex after such a short time as a big problem. Not only because it leaves me agitated and unsatisfied but what's the explanation. Haven't gotten a satisfying reason yet. What does this say about the rest of the relationship?
And when we do have sex its a chore to get it to happen, chore to get us in sync and it kind of puts me off. I still go through with ;-) but it's not as much fun.
Thoughts?
I've been in the shoes of your partner.
I stopped wanting to have sex because he was horrible in bed. Simple enough. As much as I tried to teach and guide, it just wasn't happening; he always reverted. It just took the fun out of it.
I don't think your frustration is what you need to be communicating to him, but rather your concern. When a couple has a discrepancy in sex drive, it can be a difficult thing to work through, but if you're approaching it from such a hard line from the get go you're likely to receive only defensiveness back.
Frustration now... after about a month and a half yes. But initially I showed more concern/interest and again I didn't get a reasonable response.
His worries and problems are the same they've been since we met.
They have sex once a week; that's hardly a dry spell. Someone pressuring you to have more sex is the best way to turn someone off it right quick.
Its strange you'd have to admit... when he WAS the one who would try to initiate sex. And he'd use to say I want to have sex with you every day... now he doesn't remember saying that... hmm
What kind of job does he do? Men can get tired too and just want to go home and relax. It bothers women when men are pushy when it comes to sex. It may bother him too.
And he doesn't want to discuss the sudden change in "schedule"? Communication (and possibly deeper) issues. Couples counseling.
I'd consider couples counseling if we were years into the relationship not months. If there is an issue, at this stage, that only a counselor could help with then I don't think I'd be willing to invest in that.
I stopped wanting to have sex because he was horrible in bed. Simple enough. As much as I tried to teach and guide, it just wasn't happening; he always reverted. It just took the fun out of it.
So you won't seek therapy, you've tried to talk and you don't find his answers enlightening, and you're unhappy. Frankly? Sounds like break up time to me.
A mistake everybody, yes, even women, can make is thinking they have it all figured out when it comes to sex and they are great at it. In any area in life thinking there is no more space for improvement can lead to failure.
But you were just being silly, right?
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