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I dont believe in marriage and will never be married.
That was exactly my point. You may date these guys but you will never marry any of them.
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Originally Posted by findly185
It's a personal choice that has absolutely nothing to do with money. .
Since you have the money it does not . For many women it is the only way to own house or comfortable living.
As some ladies say "I am to pretty to work"
Your few examples are not busting anything, I see wealthy guys marrying good looking and relatively poor girls all the time while the opposite is very rare. The story of Cinderella reflects a typical female mindset.
You obviously hang out in different circles than I do. The men I know have much higher standards than simply a pretty face.
The trend is that intelligent men marry intelligent women. Dumb men marry dumb women.
Yup. Professional good looking men usually marry professional good-looking women. Both want the "total package". When I was in law school, the best looking male law students dated the hot female law students. The less attractive male law students were not able to get dates with the best looking females, so they had to make concessions somewhere. Some dated good looking but not so smart women and some dated smart but not so good looking women.
My friends and I were talking the other day about dating guys who were not in college (or hadn't graduated from college). Most of my friends wouldn't even consider dating a guy who didn't believe in the importance of getting a college education. I am torn on the subject. I come from a solid middle class family, and my dad has a graduate degree, while my mom didn't finish college. I am in college now, and planning on vet school. At this point in my life, I have only dated guys who are in college, or have graduated college. It's not about the $$$. It's the thought that the guy applied himself to GET the degree, and believes in the value of education. That being said, I know that mechanics, electricians, plumbers, masons, etc. are highly skilled, and also believe in the value of education. I'm pretty sure if the opportunity presented itself, I'd date someone with one of those occupations, if their morals and values were in line with mine.
And how many female MDs who married male RNs you know?
That was exactly my point, men don't have a problem "marrying down" while women generally treat marriage as a transaction which is supposed
to benefit them by elevating them to a higher socio-economic status.
That's the reality of marriage.
What is the reality then when her hubby gets laid off and outsourced and all he can find and will find is a job making half of what he did? What is the reality when he is stricken and can't work full time or at all? If these women marry with the idea that it will benefit them in social and economic class it stands to reason that in hard times they would bail on the guy as he is no longer able to provide that.
If a man marries a woman like that even though she may be of high social class, education, high employment and great looks he did in fact "marry down".
i work in a 'white collar field', the guy i am dating is 'blue collar'. He treats me like a queen and is the ideal concept of what i expect a man to be like. however, i am getting a hard time from some of my friends and particularly my family who believe i should "stick to people in my own class" as they say. I believe horrible people come in all social ranks, and have been treated wronged by some of those so called "white collar folks" i was sworn to date since birth. I just want to like someone who likes me for me. but does social class really matter?
Back to you. To conclude let me say it only matters if you let it. Many people like your friends and family seem to make it matter but they are not you, and if you have any self-determination you would tell them to get a clue and stay out of your happiness.
From my observation, a guy who is well off it does not matter if he marries down to some extent, I have seen it a lot of this here in NYC, Im not sure how the reet of this plays out in other parts of America. I know now of a couple who got married, poor Latina who was trying real hard to makd a namer for herself who fell in love and married a wealthy Emirate. Also I know of another guy he is a cardiolosgist and married a single mother with two kids who used to live in a poor area of the Bronx. On the flip side women of higher strata wont marry or even date a guy from a lower income strata unless that guy has a deal breaker of some sort such as good looks. Also look up Justinian and theodora emperor and empress of the Byzantine or Eastern Roman Empire. it was illegal then for some one of a higher class to marry someone from a lower class but Justinian gotvhis uncle to change the law and Justinian married Theodora who is from a lower class.
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. For many women it is the only way to own house or comfortable living.
