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Class is not so much an issue for me but education is. I need to be with someone who can engage my mind, and my interests are on the cultural/academic side. My ex was a blue collar camera operator/HS dropout but after we started dating he went back to get his BA and graduated with honours before starting his own business. His background had no bearing on what he ended up achieving with his brain.
Class is not so much an issue for me but education is. I need to be with someone who can engage my mind, and my interests are on the cultural/academic side. My ex was a blue collar camera operator/HS dropout but after we started dating he went back to get his BA and graduated with honours before starting his own business. His background had no bearing on what he ended up achieving with his brain.
LOL, when I was living with a factory mechanic and former biker, my family was convinced that all sorts of sordid goings-on were taking place in my apartment. They didn't believe me when I told them my evenings with my boyfriend consisted mainly of reading library books, watching Nova specials and playing Scrabble, when we weren't working on our projects (welding for him, writing for me).
This is a form of Americanism that is unacceptable. The sad fact is that most Americans don't even see what the problem is.
Class matters a lot in a place like India. In america, it's not a huge deal. If the girl grew up to millionaires, she's probably not going to marry an electrician. But if she grew up to a lawyer or professor family, the lower class guy still has a chance. Plenty of rich girls go after poor guys to rebel
Your friends and family are terrible people. I am sorry if that sounds harsh, but it is true. It is unconscionable to view a person as beneath you simply because his job isn't "white collar." And let's be honest, your differences weight heavily on your mind too, hence this thread. But that you have done it, understand it is a chance to change your opinions of "blue collar" people. If he is a great guy, stop thinking about him in terms of "social class" (and what a yucky thing to do) and just think of him as a man. He is not his job. And if any of your family or friends ever say a word about him, tell them they have a choice to make - **** or you will cease contact with them.
Meh, I don't think they are terrible people. From personal experiences most people stick with their class, socioeconomic income, educational level, etc. Going outside of "it" usually results in suffering for the parties involved--I notice this is especially true for women who choose to date men from completely different backgrounds, educational levels, income levels etc. It's just easier to date someone that is like you. It's the "safe" option. That being said, I'm being very general, I don't know everyone so obviously there are those where it worked out... I think it would have been difficult for me to date a man that didn't have an education, or that earned significantly less than me. Beyond the things my family and friends would say, since I value education and wanted a certain lifestyle, men that fit outside of the mold were typically off my radar. I do have a friend who has a bachelor degree, who is married with a child to a man that is a carpenter. Their relationship has a ton of issues, and I suspect a lot of it stems from the fact that she makes more, and that he doesn't have a higher education. They were HS sweethearts, and I think in many ways overtime his lack of college education bothered her(not him), and her making more bothered her(not him). He isn't willing to go back to college(doesn't see the point), and isn't bothered or intimidated by her making more. But for her, it's embarrassing.
Many go after all kinds of groups. It's good at times to mix it up. Let the rich be reminded of what others don't have. And middle to low class actually appreciate it.
Class matters a lot in a place like India. In america, it's not a huge deal. If the girl grew up to millionaires, she's probably not going to marry an electrician. But if she grew up to a lawyer or professor family, the lower class guy still has a chance. Plenty of rich girls go after poor guys to rebel
His chances are very slim, if we are honest. But this is me considering the friends I have that are in law school or in other white collar fields who I know for a fact are not interested in dating a "poor" guy, even if it's to rebel. They would whether stay single.
not sure, but i notice a lot of girls around my area that went to ivy league schools all are in relationships or married to guys that were also in ivy league schools or make a lot of money.
i work in a 'white collar field', the guy i am dating is 'blue collar'. He treats me like a queen and is the ideal concept of what i expect a man to be like. however, i am getting a hard time from some of my friends and particularly my family who believe i should "stick to people in my own class" as they say. I believe horrible people come in all social ranks, and have been treated wronged by some of those so called "white collar folks" i was sworn to date since birth. I just want to like someone who likes me for me. but does social class really matter?
You're a noble person. Those in your immediate social sphere are NOT. (I can see the movie right now, with patrician parents around the dinner table in a wainscoted dining room somberly admonishing you).
I grew up in a middle-class household. One of the things I remember is that kids have a good "sniffer." They quickly assess who can "spend" as much as they can, and make friendships accordingly. The same is true of romantic relationships, more often than not.
Someone is going to come on here and shake their finger, saying "Robert, you can't (yada yada)..." Again, I said more often than not...
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