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It seems to be something that might be more of a deal with women, generally speaking. If you were a guy dating a girl who was blue collar, not that big of a deal really. Sure, there are exceptions.
If this girl who started the thread and this guy are happy, who is everybody around her to tell her the relationship is wrong, right?
True. As I said in some cases those types of relationships work out. In some cases they don't. I've found in the cases they work, usually the woman and men have similar education(both bachelor degrees for instance), similar values, and the man usually makes a similar salary(whether it's a little less, or a little more). It seems from personal experience that in the cases it didn't work, it was when the man was less educated, made significantly less, and had different values or beliefs. The OP hasn't elaborated enough so she just has to use her own discretion about her relationship.
True. As I said in some cases those types of relationships work out. In some cases they don't. I've found in the cases they work, usually the woman and men have similar education(both bachelor degrees for instance), similar values, and the man usually makes a similar salary(whether it's a little less, or a little more). It seems from personal experience that in the cases it didn't work, it was when the man was less educated, made significantly less, and had different values or beliefs. The OP hasn't elaborated enough so she just has to use her own discretion about her relationship.
Agree. Could be the reason why women normally are not attracted to men who are below their level. Makes sense why it is not your everyday thing to see women interested in men below their level. A man has to show way more than just being nice or he will just be, what women call, a loser.
It seems to be something that might be more of a deal with women, generally speaking. If you were a guy dating a girl who was blue collar, not that big of a deal really. Sure, there are exceptions.
If this girl who started the thread and this guy are happy, who is everybody around her to tell her the relationship is wrong, right?
Of course it is a womens thing. We do marry dumb and pretty things all the time and nobody makes a fuss abiut it.
Women however treat marriage as a trade and want to get as much as tbey can from this trandaction.
Not to me and not to the girl who I went on to marry. It did to some extent to her family but that was far outweighed by the fact they hated me because I was English.
Of course it is a womens thing. We do marry dumb and pretty things all the time and nobody makes a fuss abiut it. Women however treat marriage as a trade and want to get as much as tbey can from this trandaction.
Oh please. I'm so sick of these generalizations about women only be concerned with a man's finances or what a man can do for her. Not all women are this way. A majority of the time when a woman decides to marry a man it's for a variety of factors--income being only one of them(and for some women even income isn't a deal-breaker). It's naive to not look at the big picture, which is that having commonalities is extremely important for a relationship to survive. Having similar values is also important. Having similar backgrounds can or cannot be important depending on the couple. The OP did not elaborate any further than her "so" being blue collar while she is white collar. This could be a problem or may not be a problem. Her family could be "snobs" or they could know something about the lack of compatibility in this particular relationship. We don't really know the details. However generally speaking women tend to marry up more than they do down. This probably will change, since society is changing, especially as more women enter fields that are very lucrative.
Last edited by sunkisses87; 08-27-2012 at 03:10 PM..
Only in America blue or white collar can be considered a "class"
Keep telling yourself that blue vs. White collar are separate classes while in reality that white collar secretary or high school teacher is not in any differrnt class than some highly skilled craftsmen....
College education does not elevate anybody into a higher class.... look hoe many college grads are working entry level blue collar job.
Difference in education may be a problem by itself in a relationship.
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I didn't mean that class was tied to whether a person was blue collar or white collar. I simply meant that in general a truck driver and a college professor or a mechanic and an accountant might not have very much in common. And this is why on average you hardly see accountants marrying mechanics, or college professors marrying truck drivers. The accountant typically will marry someone in a similar field, or with a similar education and savvy for finances, and the college professor might marry a person in a similar field or with the same passion for learning. I don't know many construction workers married to women in white collar fields. But I'm sure it happens.
i work in a 'white collar field', the guy i am dating is 'blue collar'. He treats me like a queen and is the ideal concept of what i expect a man to be like. however, i am getting a hard time from some of my friends and particularly my family who believe i should "stick to people in my own class" as they say.?
If the topic of sticking to a "class' was racial based most everybody would call them horrible racists. Although white & blue is still bringing out the color classifications.
It can...I went on for a drink with a doctor once....she told me all of her siblings are either doctors or lawyers. She asked me what my brothers did...they're all professionals too, but they're not doctors. I could see in her face that she wasn't impressed and I never heard from her again.
I didn't mean that class was tied to whether a person was blue collar or white collar. I simply meant that in general a truck driver and a college professor or a mechanic and an accountant might not have very much in common. And this is why on average you hardly see accountants marrying mechanics, or college professors marrying truck drivers. The accountant typically will marry someone in a similar field, or with a similar education and savvy for finances, and the college professor might marry a person in a similar field or with the same passion for learning. I don't know many construction workers married to women in white collar fields. But I'm sure it happens.
All your examples were of women marrying "down" - even you subconsciously realized that men are more likely to go with looks and overall compatibility understood in a much wider sense than education or family background or books we read.
But not women, from Cindirella to a lawyer women dream of marrying up, preferably nto wealth.
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does social class really matter?
I'm so sick of these generalizations about women only be concerned with a man's finances or what a man can do for her. Not all women are this way. A majority of the time when a woman decides to marry a man it's for a variety of factors--income being only one of them(and for some women even income isn't a deal-breaker). It's naive to not look at the big picture, which is that having commonalities is extremely important for a relationship to survive. Having similar values is also important. Having similar backgrounds can or cannot be important depending on the couple. The OP did not elaborate any further than her "so" being blue collar while she is white collar. This could be a problem or may not be a problem. Her family could be "snobs" or they could know something about the lack of compatibility in this particular relationship. We don't really know the details. However generally speaking women tend to marry up more than they do down. This probably will change, since society is changing, especially as more women enter fields that are very lucrative.
