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08-25-2012, 06:43 PM
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i work in a 'white collar field', the guy i am dating is 'blue collar'. He treats me like a queen and is the ideal concept of what i expect a man to be like. however, i am getting a hard time from some of my friends and particularly my family who believe i should "stick to people in my own class" as they say. I believe horrible people come in all social ranks, and have been treated wronged by some of those so called "white collar folks" i was sworn to date since birth. I just want to like someone who likes me for me. but does social class really matter?
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08-25-2012, 06:53 PM
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Location: La lune et les étoiles
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It depends. In some cases, yes. In others, no.
But, in my experience, it usually does not work out well for women who earn more, are more educated and come from a higher social status than their husband.
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08-25-2012, 06:54 PM
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Originally Posted by thrudaluknglass
i work in a 'white collar field', the guy i am dating is 'blue collar'. He treats me like a queen and is the ideal concept of what i expect a man to be like. however, i am getting a hard time from some of my friends and particularly my family who believe i should "stick to people in my own class" as they say. I believe horrible people come in all social ranks, and have been treated wronged by some of those so called "white collar folks" i was sworn to date since birth. I just want to like someone who likes me for me. but does social class really matter?
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If it doesn't matter to you and you're happy, then you shouldn't worry about it. It would matter to me though. I tried to get to know a "blue collar" guy before (and I'm not saying that all of them are like this), but I just couldn't really deal with the way he spoke. He constantly used profanity and didn't sound intelligent. I prefer people who speak the way I do and those people usually belong to a similar social class. But that's just my thing. If you're open to it and it works for you, great! 
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08-25-2012, 06:55 PM
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It doesn't matter that much in America. We don't live in India, so your class is not a huge deal.
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08-25-2012, 06:56 PM
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Location: NYC
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Your friends and family are terrible people. I am sorry if that sounds harsh, but it is true. It is unconscionable to view a person as beneath you simply because his job isn't "white collar." And let's be honest, your differences weight heavily on your mind too, hence this thread. But that you have done it, understand it is a chance to change your opinions of "blue collar" people. If he is a great guy, stop thinking about him in terms of "social class" (and what a yucky thing to do) and just think of him as a man. He is not his job. And if any of your family or friends ever say a word about him, tell them they have a choice to make - **** or you will cease contact with them.
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08-25-2012, 07:03 PM
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Location: La lune et les étoiles
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Originally Posted by OngletNYC
Your friends and family are terrible people. I am sorry if that sounds harsh, but it is true. It is unconscionable to view a person as beneath you simply because his job isn't "white collar." And let's be honest, your differences weight heavily on your mind too, hence this thread. But that you have done it, understand it is a chance to change your opinions of "blue collar" people. If he is a great guy, stop thinking about him in terms of "social class" (and what a yucky thing to do) and just think of him as a man. He is not his job. And if any of your family or friends ever say a word about him, tell them they have a choice to make - **** or you will cease contact with them.
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Her friends and family are probably coming from a place of love, concern and protection.
One of my best friends (banking executive) married a blue collar guy and that marriage cost her a lot of money and heartache. Her husband resented her success, high paying position, her friends. He resented the fact that he could never support them based on his earnings. So he started cheating on her, got a DUI after causing an accident (they were sued and had to pay a settlement) and when they divorced she ended up having to pay him a pretty large settlement.
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08-25-2012, 07:03 PM
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Location: Virginia Beach, VA
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I really don't think it matters. If you like the man and are genuinely attracted then you should continue to pursue your relationship with him. You may have to make a deliberate effort to get your family and friends to accept him, and it is a real possibility that they never will. You have to consider what makes you happy, though, and not them.
@Sweet Like Sugar, please correct me if I am not interpreting correctly, but it seems as though your aversion is more toward personality and behavioral traits more so than class itself, and that you have incidentally noticed these traits in people of blue collar backgrounds. Am I right?
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08-25-2012, 07:04 PM
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It only matters if you believe in "class"
Just like with race, religion, etc, I think people generalize and assume things about others because of the work they do.
And white collar does not automatically mean stable, or any other adjective. A smart blue collar guy with an in-demand skillset can make more money than some guy wearing a suit driving a 3 series beemer with a ridiculous car loan. I'd rather see a femal friend of mine date a stable blue collar guy than some slick white collar guy who makes friends with everyone. For the record I work a white collar job...
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08-25-2012, 07:07 PM
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Location: FL
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Originally Posted by cronkmette
It only matters if you believe in "class"
Just like with race, religion, etc, I think people generalize and assume things about others because of the work they do.
And white collar does not automatically mean stable, or any other adjective. A smart blue collar guy with an in-demand skillset can make more money than some guy wearing a suit driving a 3 series beemer with a ridiculous car loan. I'd rather see a femal friend of mine date a stable blue collar guy than some slick white collar guy who makes friends with everyone. For the record I work a white collar job...
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08-25-2012, 07:07 PM
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Location: bloomington,illinois
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Originally Posted by thrudaluknglass
i work in a 'white collar field', the guy i am dating is 'blue collar'. He treats me like a queen and is the ideal concept of what i expect a man to be like. however, i am getting a hard time from some of my friends and particularly my family who believe i should "stick to people in my own class" as they say. I believe horrible people come in all social ranks, and have been treated wronged by some of those so called "white collar folks" i was sworn to date since birth. I just want to like someone who likes me for me. but does social class really matter?
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Sorry to say, but maybe your friends and family don't have your best interest in mind?
Social class doesn't mean crap! 
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