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will probably wait until 35 to reluctantly have 1 child because the society tells me so. my parents won't shut up about it either.
Don't do it. If you don't want children - don't have them. Children deserve to have parents who want them. It's hard enough to raise a child - much less one you don't even want.
Don't do it. If you don't want children - don't have them. Children deserve to have parents who want them. It's hard enough to raise a child - much less one you don't even want.
well, for general reference, we do have a dog that we both adore -- and it probably takes care of my "fatherly instincts" to some extent.
but I still find the dog incredibly annoying 1/2 the time. may be I am just very egoistic and value my own personal time / freedom too much.
the great irony is that my wife and I are both very well educated, have great and stable jobs, and we are "qualified" to be good parents more than overwhelming majority of this f-n society.
the moral dilemma for me is should I breed to pass my genes to enhance this hopeless DNA pool and raise better citizens for my country, or should I just tell the ultimate F U to the society by not breeding at all and deprive them from future taxpayers and potential meat fodder.
PS: as you can probably sense from my post, I am a cynical bastard as well and have no problems admitting it .
Last edited by pzrOrange; 08-29-2012 at 08:14 AM..
I'm in the middle of a divorce, but even if we were still together I'm pretty sure kids weren't in our future. I was diagnosed with premature ovarian failure at 20 (a few weeks after we got engaged), and adoption is the only option I would consider...I don't like the idea of fertility treatments.
After we got together, my ex became the kind of person that no adoption agency would ever let become a father, no matter how good of a person I was. I would never have wanted to put a child in that situation. Now I realize that every cloud has a silver lining. Divorcing is easier, moving away is easier, going back to college is easier, giving my wonderful dog the attention he deserves is easier, and I'm able to not be afraid to try new things for fear of failure.
I'm ok with never having kids, but who knows, maybe I'll be a step mom someday. I'm friends with a couple in their 30's who decided before they got married to not have kids. I'm selfish at this point in my life, and I look back at all the things I would have missed out on if I had to take care of someone else and always put them before me. I don't know if I'll ever come to that point in my life where I'm ready to relinquish control over all of my free time, spontaneity, and quiet time. I think more and more people/couples are realizing that they can have a fun and fulfilling life staying childless. Plus, you can be that fun aunt/friend and spoil the kids that are in your life, and then give them back when the sugar kicks in or the diaper needs changing
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