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Crue's makeout thread got me thinking about how the passion/spark can fall out of the equation in long term relationships over time.
After almost 4 years of being together with BF, we know we want a life together, we're planning for it...and we're in the comfortable phase. I know that's not a bad thing, but passion is important to keep things going as well. We don't kiss as much as we used to and makeout sessions are non existent. I know he's still crazy about me, but for some reason doesn't see the urgent need to show me so...maybe because he "has" me for good now?
This isn't a thread necessarily for me to solve my problem, because I count myself fortunate to be with him anyways and it's a small issue we can work out. This is more like a request for an exchange of ideas.
What are some ideas to spice up the passion in a relationship? Have you ever fallen into that LTR "rut", and if so how did you tackle it?
Crue's makeout thread got me thinking about how the passion/spark can fall out of the equation in long term relationships over time.
After almost 4 years of being together with BF, we know we want a life together, we're planning for it...and we're in the comfortable phase. I know that's not a bad thing, but passion is important to keep things going as well. We don't kiss as much as we used to and makeout sessions are non existent. I know he's still crazy about me, but for some reason doesn't see the urgent need to show me so...maybe because he "has" me for good now?
This isn't a thread necessarily for me to solve my problem, because I count myself fortunate to be with him anyways and it's a small issue we can work out. This is more like a request for an exchange of ideas.
What are some ideas to spice up the passion in a relationship? Have you ever fallen into that LTR "rut", and if so how did you tackle it?
Share your ideas/stores!
try using a tazer on him. i hear it brings a spark to any relationship.
Crue's makeout thread got me thinking about how the passion/spark can fall out of the equation in long term relationships over time.
After almost 4 years of being together with BF, we know we want a life together, we're planning for it...and we're in the comfortable phase. I know that's not a bad thing, but passion is important to keep things going as well. We don't kiss as much as we used to and makeout sessions are non existent. I know he's still crazy about me, but for some reason doesn't see the urgent need to show me so...maybe because he "has" me for good now?
This isn't a thread necessarily for me to solve my problem, because I count myself fortunate to be with him anyways and it's a small issue we can work out. This is more like a request for an exchange of ideas.
What are some ideas to spice up the passion in a relationship? Have you ever fallen into that LTR "rut", and if so how did you tackle it?
Share your ideas/stores!
Perhaps, put together a pcnic lunch of a good wine,cheese, salami, crackers, fruit bowl, cut veggies, some ranch dip, water, etc. Bring a blanket...
Go to a quiet spot you both have sweet memories of, from times before. Somewhere you can have feelings of peace, harmony, tranquility . Could be a mountain forest meadow, beautiful desert scenes, a gorge with a favorite skinny dipping swimmin hole.
Get comfortable. When the time is right, kiss, touch, say sweet somethings to each other......
Perhaps, put together a pcnic lunch of a good wine,cheese, salami, crackers, fruit bowl, cut veggies, some ranch dip, water, etc. Bring a blanket...
Go to a quiet spot you both have sweet memories of, from times before. Somewhere you can have feelings of peace, harmony, tranquility . Could be a mountain forest meadow, beautiful desert scenes, a gorge with a favorite skinny dipping swimmin hole.
Get comfortable. When the time is right, kiss, touch, say sweet somethings to each other......
Renew the passion of your love.
I so love it when the real men show up to post here
But also, go for the unexpected, as well. Leave a note next to his razor, drop a card in a post-box addressed to him with no return address (and of course, sign it from you on the inside), arrange to meet him somewhere and when you get there tell him what you are (or aren't) wearing under your skirt, send him suggestive texts throughout the day so that by the time you get home he's ready to go, or take the afternoon off and surprise him with his favorite home-cooked meal and dessert from scratch. If you have some cash to drop, book a Saturday night at a swanky hotel or a cozy bed-and-breakfast, rent him his dream car for a day, surprise him with tickets to see his favorite sports team, or take a class in massage or exotic dancing (without telling him) and then surprise him one night with what you've learned.
Basically, lead by example. He'll eventually get ideas of his own.
But also, go for the unexpected, as well. Leave a note next to his razor, drop a card in a post-box addressed to him with no return address (and of course, sign it from you on the inside), arrange to meet him somewhere and when you get there tell him what you are (or aren't) wearing under your skirt, send him suggestive texts throughout the day so that by the time you get home he's ready to go, or take the afternoon off and surprise him with his favorite home-cooked meal and dessert from scratch. If you have some cash to drop, book a Saturday night at a swanky hotel or a cozy bed-and-breakfast, rent him his dream car for a day, surprise him with tickets to see his favorite sports team, or take a class in massage or exotic dancing (without telling him) and then surprise him one night with what you've learned.
Basically, lead by example. He'll eventually get ideas of his own.
Umm, YES!!! got a little hot just reading that lol. where can I find an age appropriate version of you?
Shake up the routine. Get a sexy board game to try or get candles and mood music in front of the fireplace and take turns touching each other for the length of one song...then the other person gets to be touched during the next song...and build up to where you can't stop. If you haven't tried some light bondage, get a couple silky scarves and experiment. Keeping it new and different and passionate takes effort, but it is sooooo worth it.
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