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Lighten up people. The point is... would you make a life-time investment in something you did not have 100% experience with. (There is really nothing comparable to marriage-divorce-dividing of assets-if it doesn't work out)
There are all sorts of scenarios you can't predict, though. You can't know 100% how children will change your marriage, or illness, or unemployment or a significant change in finances. Every relationship is so individual and complex--why reduce it down to "this is the best way"?
Lighten up people. The point is... would you make a life-time investment in something you did not have 100% experience with. (There is really nothing comparable to marriage-divorce-dividing of assets-if it doesn't work out)
Does anyone ever have 100% experience with someone? Also, does having 100% experience mean you must live together to be certain you have that 100% experience?
Totally different topic-- but we have a couple friend that are moving from Latin America-- from a country in which they have many very close friends-- here to NY. The wife is having a very difficult time adjusting because her best friends are all back 'home' and she's not sure she can adjust without them. This baffles me-- for me, as long as my husband is with me, I'm happy and we both know we can adjust to anything.
I've lived abroad with my partner before and had similar struggles with missing friends and my general support system. I love my SO--he is my best friend and true partner. That doesn't mean he's my sole source of friendship, support or entertainment.
Yes, well some people see their significant others as being more important than their cars and houses. I understand that you place most things above your girlfriend (you've told me so in other threads) but in my life, my husband and my family come first. You don't even want to get married.
Things change. That is not the case anymore. I place nothing above her well being. That is different from the point of this thread though.
I tend to think less of people who let archaic traditions define their relationships. It's a character flaw.
Ding ding ding. We have a winner.
Neither side is right or wrong. Just dont judge me if I want to cohabitate, dont believe in marriage, dont like kids, and whatever other heinous acts I inflict against tradition. You can stay in your corner and I'll stay in mine.
Lighten up people. The point is... would you make a life-time investment in something you did not have 100% experience with. (There is really nothing comparable to marriage-divorce-dividing of assets-if it doesn't work out)
Yes...and I did.
Because I knew there would be no surprises.
I knew him as well as I was ever going to know him before we married. I knew where he stood on finances, child-rearing, religion ..etc. I knew how he brushed his teeth, I knew that he wasn't a slob, I knew how he liked his coffee, I knew he snored (I did travel with him), I knew everything I needed to know in order to make an informed decision. There were no surprises when we got married and started living together. Just becaues I didn't sleep in his bed every night doesn't mean I lacked any opportunity to know him better.
You just said a house and a car were more important than a person...
No, I didn't. I just said they are more important. I didn't say what they are more important than did I? Test driving a car or inspecting a house is more important than getting to know your girlfriend or boyfriend. Get that squared away then you're fine. You would have recognized what I said it was more important than if you just followed what I was quoting about and what the quote was quoting about.
It was the greatest experience. We lived in Latin America for a few years, made some of our best friends while there, learned a new language, and still visit annually at least. We only just recently sold our home there. We have since moved here, which is still 600 miles from where our parents live, but in a way (and for us), I think being on our own, away from familiarity and only having each other and our cats, the moves have made our relationship all the more stronger.
Totally different topic-- but we have a couple friend that are moving from Latin America-- from a country in which they have many very close friends-- here to NY. The wife is having a very difficult time adjusting because her best friends are all back 'home' and she's not sure she can adjust without them. This baffles me-- for me, as long as my husband is with me, I'm happy and we both know we can adjust to anything.
I'm with you. I LOVE moving...I'm actually quite itchy right now to move. We've been in our house 8yrs, that's the longest we've been in one place and it's driving me crazy!
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